Wondering what the general consensus is on this situ.. my grandma (Dads mum) recently passed away, quite suddenly but peacefully. My mum never really liked her; they have had very different personalities and growing up my mum often made snipey comments about my grandma, her character, behaviour etc- nothing horrendous but I was definitely aware of it growing up even very young- my grandma was quite a ‘hard’ woman- not very affectionate or maternal for example. I don’t think my grandma really liked my mum; but I never heard my grandma speak badly of my mum and tbh I think she would have been too ‘busy’ to get involved in ‘tittle tattle’ as she couldn’t be arsed with that sort of thing. I expect her dislike of my mum wasn’t really personal but I have an inkling from something my dad said once that my grandma thought my dad should have married someone else: I wonder if my mum knew she’d said it- this is obviously mean but they did get married, happily, and my grandma was always civil etc they always just were pleasant; I never witnessed any hostility between the two of them, face to face, only my mums comments over the years. Anyway; my grandma passed away recently and my grandad offered me one of my grandmas rings- she had some beautiful heirloom jewellery and I’ve had a couple of bits over the years and my grandad offered me one of her rings and I said yes - I’d like something to remember her by of course. (She has also left me some money in her will). My grandad gave my mum the rings (there are several different ones) as they needed to be officially valued as part of the inheritance process; so the rings were in my mums possession for a week or so. My mum told me about all this on the phone as we chat regularly and described a few of the styles to me , I said one in particular sounded like my favourite (I live far away) and that was that. A few days later we are on a video chat and I notice she is wearing a ring instead of her engagement ring- and I realise it’s one of my grandmas- it’s the one I said I liked the sound of. She has since kept this ring and is wearing it. About a week later my dad calls me with my grandad and shows me the rings and asks me to choose one- I did & I’m grateful for it. The one my mum had one was not present with the others.. I feel a bit spikey about my mum just taking first dibs on my grandmas rings (which she happened to have in her possession by chance as she was tasked with the valuation); A) when she disliked my grandma and B) also I find it a bit odd as she is not a blood relative.. my grandma has two living sisters also- I think they’ve also been offered pieces; but I find it wrong my mum chose first without other relatives being able to chose before her.. am I being unreasonable??? I won’t say anything as it’s not a big deal In the long run & she obviously doesn’t have any issue with it- eventually I will inherit it anyway I suppose but that’s not really why it bothers me… I suppose deep down it’s this notion that yes it was her MIL but she was my Grandma, and there are other blood relatives and I feel we should have been a bit more considered…I feel a bit spikey when I see her wearing it now on our video calls. Thoughts please wise women?! Sorry for long context! AIBU?? xoxo