To think my friend is being disrespectful towards his parents?

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I know this is none of my business but just looking for some opinions

My best friend uses grindr and in a recent conversation told me how he invited one man off there to meet him at his house, said friend lives with his parents. He arranged this meet up when both his parents were out the house. Friend had only been speaking to this person since the night before and this meet up was the next morning. I didn't say anything to him but privately I felt it was disrespectful inviting practically strangers to his house when he lives his parents. Friend has done this a few times before. Am I right in thinking this?

I think it's disrespectful. I wouldn't want a random stranger in my house. In fact my DD, then 19, brought someone back for a shag and I was livid. What if they're a thief? What about my other children meeting a stranger in the landing? This is my home and my sanctuary.

I do think its a bit disrespectful, but also none of my business and would try and file this in the "none of my business" area

Would it be less offensive if he took a woman round?
Probably wouldn't be as dangerous as a man, I've watched too many crime shows.
I did it once in my early 20's brought a random back to my parents drunk and unplanned.

''Probably wouldn't be as dangerous as a man, I've watched too many crime shows.''

Watch Fatal Attraction or Hard Candy and you might change such a view haha.

The mistake you're making is judging it to be disrespectful because that's how your parents viewed it, who in turn taught that 'value' to you. Other people with differing values, like your friends family, do not share that negative connotation so no, it's not disrespectful.

I think this is quite common for people who live at home. It’s either a case of going to their place constantly or inviting them to yours, if your parents are out I really can’t see any issue at all. Bit more weird if they’re at home, mind…

eh there is a big difference between a 'visitor' and some random stranger you are bringing into the house for sex. That is the issue here-the sex part

right. what’s the big difference then? where’s the issue?

I think it's probably time he got his own place tbh.

I think it's disrespectful.

I've told my friend he needs to for his own safety let me or someone else know he's going to meet up with people he has not met in real life before.

It is disrespectful. People here are just being deliberately argumentative as usual.

I wouldn't dream of bringing a stranger back to my parents house for a hook up. It's dangerous and just a bit grim to be honest. Nothing to do with sexuality either. My parents were both very liberal but even they would have had something to say about me bringing a one night stand back to their home.

I think that if you have housemates, whether friends, strangers or family, you owe them bit of care by not bringing randoms home. It's a safety risk.

@Blindering

''Probably wouldn't be as dangerous as a man, I've watched too many crime shows.''

Watch Fatal Attraction or Hard Candy and you might change such a view haha.

Yes but the fact you can name those films is telling. Female-to-male violence must be less than 1% of all movies.

''right. what’s the big difference then? where’s the issue?''

do I really have to explain this? The issue is that some people are conservative and would not like pre martial or casual sex in their homes, that's what.

''Female-to-male violence must be less than 1% of all movies.''

please don't make this into another men are all violent predators thread. I was joking when I mentioned these films and if you look up thread I already said that females would be much more likely to be attacked/seen as prey by strangers on dating sites than gay men as women are generally physically much easier targets.