AIBU to feel sad that Step-Dad's condolence card didn't include me?

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My Stepdad died in July 21. He'd had cancer for 8 years and caught covid. He beat the covid but after that he seemed to get sicker and much more poorly.

He was with my Mum from 96 to his passing in July. I was with him in the hospital. They let us come in to say goodbye. When I got to the hospital the nurse on reception was a bit miffed and wasn't sure she'd let me in. He'd spent a lot of time on the same ward being very very ill and they eventually let me in. Hurt a bit as I'd done a lot to help him. (His own kids wouldn't help him when he was first diagnosed with cancer, he needed help to tidy up his home (Mum's disabled) and the gardening. I did it as his kids both refused. I thought that was sickening. How could you not help your own Dad?

I'm glad we had Father's day. I got him a card and a sudoku book that he loved to do. He was ever so smart.

So my aibu is should I feel sad that I wasn't mentioned on the condolence card from a family friend? Silly I know. I miss him everyday.

Sounds like you two had a lovely relationship. That's what matters really.

Not silly at all OP, that’s made me sad for you. But @Abhannmor is right, cherish what you know was a fabulous relationship x

Of course not.
His lovely relationship with you was no doubt a comfort.

Try not to judge his other children too harshly, he may have had a completely different relationship with them, than you.

Many men abandon their first family and that is very painful for any children they had.