Who is it?

[Ferfecksackmammy]

This morning after a busy night shift I came home and when I asked my ex (who I co parent out son with) what his plans were for today he said I don't know yet, and what's going on with your belly(he might have said what the fucks going on)?

I lost it(a lot of shouting and crying). I really regret how upset and shouty I got but I've been feeling rubbish about myself and I really didn't need to hear this this morning. I've mentioned to him numerous times over the last few days/week that I was trying to eat better because I felt I'd put on a bit of weight.

I shouldn't have lost it but Wibu for getting upset at his comment. He said I was being ridiculous as he was just trying to help (?? Me loose weight)

Why was he even in your house?

He was not trying to help. He was being a twat.
Are you living in the same home?

He was an idiot. You put him straight. Move on.

Do you still live together? I'd move out. He is a dick.

He's an ex for a reason, don't let him get to you.

@Ponoka7

He's an ex for a reason, don't let him get to you.

Yes this! Rise above it and forget about it

Does his opinion matter?

Maybe a reply such as “doesn’t bother my new man”.... might shut him up.

On a serious note though sounds like you need better boundaries with him. Are you living together still? I’d probably try to disengage as much as possible as I can only thing the purpose of him making a comment like that was to make you feel shit about yourself.

Thanks , we don't live together but because of difficult circumstances his house is not suitable for our son so when I'm working he stays at mine to take care of him.

I have been trying to establish boundaries but he continually tries to push them. I think it's time to find a better way of doing things

Your ex is... something else. I'd like to be more specific but I don't think I could in polite company. But he is.

He’s said it deliberately to have power over you. “I still have the power to hurt her” type thing.

You’re on it because you are eating more healthily. So soon you will be looking the way you want and he can go raffle. Especially if you decide to date a new man who is nicer than him!

Don’t let him grind you down. He’s not nice. He’s not helping. He’s an ex for a reason.

OP, I agree he is pushing your buttons just to be nasty. Time to find another way to do things. Can you wait in your car, message him and he leaves before you go in?
(Assuming he cannot adapt his house).