@Howshouldibehave
You’re happy for people to transfer germs to your baby by kissing them, but you aren’t happy with them if they do it wearing lipstick?
I agree with
@Howshouldibehave,
@BertiesMangos - there is no difference between a kiss with lipstick and one without, as far as potential bacteria transfer is concerned.
It is perfectly normal to worry about things when you have children - I know I worried about so many things - and still do, even though they are now all in their 20s, have degrees and jobs, and one is getting married next year! The things you worry about change, but you still worry. What matters is trying to make sure that your worries don't spoil your experience of being a mum, or have a negative impact on your child.
I have anxiety along with depression and poor self esteem, and I know how hard it is, when a worry takes hold of you - it can grow out of all proportion, and be really hard to deal with. I have had to learn how to cut my anxieties back down to their real size, so I can see them in proportion. I think that talking about your worries, as you have here, is the best first step in taking control of them.
I think it helps if you can think logically about the potential risks of people kissing the baby - yes, people have bacteria in and around their mouths, but if the baby is fit and healthy, it is very unlikely that they would catch anything from that bacteria - in fact, exposure to bacteria can boost their immune systems - and I've never heard of a baby being seriously ill after being kissed (excluding cold sores - anyone with a cold sore would get a hard No from me, if they wanted to kiss the baby).
Generally speaking, babies are a lot tougher than we think - I definitely found I was more relaxed about dirt and germs with my second and third babies than with the first. Looking back, it was clearest when I think about their dummies. If ds1 dropped his, it got washed in hot, soapy water and sterilised before he got it back. When ds2 dropped his, it got washed in hot water, and given back. With ds3, I licked it and gave it back.
I don't want to come over as if I'm lecturing you - but as I said, if you let your anxieties rule your life, it could make you enjoy motherhood less. There will always be things to worry about - I used to fret that, because I wasn't particularly good at getting drawing and art stuff out for the dses to use, that this would ruin their whole education, and I'd failed them. I expressed this fear to ds1's Reception teacher, and she very kindly did not laugh at me, but reassured me that he would be fine - and she was right.
Looking back, it is easy to see how groundless my worries were - but it can be very hard indeed to do that at the time. I was very good indeed at finding something new to worry about, as soon as I got one anxiety under control - and I'd hate to think of you going through that like I did.