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Original poster

To want to meet my ExH GF?

13 replies

MyLifeNow20 · 22/08/2021 23:30

We've been divorced 3 years. He has never introduced me to his new GF who he has a 2.5yr old with.
He constantly messages to say he misses me or is thinking of me or has had a dream about me.
I have never met the new GF and he doesnt want me too. My DD spends every other weekend there and feel like this is a bit strange he doesnt want us to meet

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Bananarama21 · 22/08/2021 23:32

Why do you want to meet her to tell he's being inappropriate? I'd ignore any comments like that

DeathStare · 22/08/2021 23:34

I don't think you're unreasonable to want to meet her, but you would be unreasonable to expect it. Ultimately that's up to them.

He constantly messages to say he misses me or is thinking of me or has had a dream about me
He shouldn't be doing this, but you know that. You need to tell him to stop. Every. Single. Time.

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 22/08/2021 23:34

He probably doesn't want you to meet so you don't tell her that he's flirting with you in the hopes of a quick leg over.

PumpkinKlNG · 22/08/2021 23:35

How do pick up and drop off work that you’ve never met her naturally?

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MyLifeNow20 · 22/08/2021 23:40

Normally just me and him meeting to drop her off pick her up. One time he had her in the car but I was too much of a wimp to walk over and introduce myself.
I would never tell her he sends me messages. Just want to meet her because my child spends time with her.

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Guavaf1sh · 22/08/2021 23:41

You write very succinctly how it would be an awful idea to meet her. Drop contact with the husband too if he messages you those type of things

Bufffy · 22/08/2021 23:43

YANBU to want to Meet her but At the end of the day it’s ultimately your ex and his Gf decision. She doesn’t need to meet you.

PumpkinKlNG · 22/08/2021 23:52

I think if she wanted to meet you she would have come out the car and introduced herself tbh

user1473878824 · 22/08/2021 23:55

Well why mention him messaging you if that clearly isn’t part of the reason you want to meet her.

Original poster
MyLifeNow20 · 22/08/2021 23:58

Becuase thats clearly why he doesnt want me to meet her?!

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Greystray · 23/08/2021 00:10

You think it's strange he doesn't want you to meet when he is still making overtures at you?

DelphiniumBlue · 23/08/2021 00:28

You split up 3 years ago and his new child is 2.5
So there was clearly some cross over between you and the GF. Maybe more than you or she thinks. How do you know the little one is 2.5?

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 23/08/2021 08:43

They divorced 3 years ago. They could have separated much earlier.

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