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Who should get the vouchers?

79 replies

Cocoswhiskers · 22/08/2021 11:55

Hello all,
First post, after much lurking 😔
Please consider this scenario,
A group of 6 go out for a meal. One person pays to treat the rest.
Let’s call that person A.
Another person, Person B, makes a complaint about the service/food in the days afterwards. But this person does not inform person A, either at the time of the meal or in the days afterwards.
The company who own the place where the food was served, reply to the complaint and send out £60 in vouchers to person B.
When person A is told about the complaint and vouchers they are not happy. They didn’t even know person B was that unhappy with the food/service.

Person B then ‘shares out’ the vouchers equally between everyone who attended the meal.
AIBU to think that person B shouldn’t have complained in this way and then ‘shared out’ the vouchers?

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Pebbledashery · 22/08/2021 11:58

Personally if person A paid.. I would give them all the vouchers. Person B still had a free meal at the end of the day.

Sosigsandwich · 22/08/2021 12:00

If A paid then the vouchers belong to A without question.

ConstantlySeekingHappiness · 22/08/2021 12:00

Person A should have been given the vouchers as they paid in full.

No one else was out of pocket so shouldn’t have got a voucher.

RogueV · 22/08/2021 12:01

Person A should have had all the vouchers!

Excelthetube · 22/08/2021 12:01

Really fucking weird to complain afterwards in obvious hope of getting vouchers for yourself. Otherwise you would just complain then and there so you got something knocked off the bill…but then B wouldn’t get anything out of it.
Bizarre behaviour

TimeForTeaAndG · 22/08/2021 12:02

Bit fucking cheeky of B to complain after the event. Even cheekier to not give A the full voucher amount!

cinders222 · 22/08/2021 12:02

Person A should have vouchers. They paid.

Coffeeisnecessary · 22/08/2021 12:03

Person A should get them of course, but what a strange thing for B to do!!

MangoBiscuit · 22/08/2021 12:03

B should have spoken to A first, and allowed A to raise the complaint themselves if they wanted to. B didn't pay for anything so had no right to a refund or vouchers. Bit cheeky how they went about it, very cheeky that they didn't hand the vouchers straight to A.

If I were in the group, but not A or B, I would hand my vouchers to A, and thank them again for a lovely time.

SalmonEile · 22/08/2021 12:03

Is person A upset because person B is complaining and by sharing out the vouchers to everyone is making a big deal ? Instead of being discreet and either just keeping the vouchers to themselves or giving them to person A ?

GintyMcGinty · 22/08/2021 12:04

Person A should get the vouchers.

Person B us a total cf

Scarydinosaurs · 22/08/2021 12:04

Did the complaint only impact person b??

I’d be so unhappy about this as person a.

54321nought · 22/08/2021 12:05

I don't think its strange, they did not want to spoil the evening with a complaint at the time, but there were obviously things to complain about.

I would have given the vouchers to A, probably though

ThinWomansBrain · 22/08/2021 12:05

At first I thought reasonable, then re-read & spotted the crucial detail that A had generously paid for everyone.
As person A paid, rude of B to complain
A should have the vouchers - or put them towards next group meal

ThinWomansBrain · 22/08/2021 12:06

so who are you in this scenario OP?

Excelthetube · 22/08/2021 12:07

If something only affected me and I didn’t want to cause a scene on the night. Then I would have STFU about it forever and be grateful everyone else had a nice time

Bollindger · 22/08/2021 12:08

Everyone should hand their voucher to A.

BadgeronaMoped · 22/08/2021 12:08

Person B sounds like a total weirdo who I'd not want to be going out with again.

Original poster
Cocoswhiskers · 22/08/2021 12:12

Thank you for your replies, everyone.

I’m grateful to be able to read what other people’s thoughts were.

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WomanStanleyWoman · 22/08/2021 12:12

I’d give the vouchers to person A.

SalmonEile · 22/08/2021 12:15

I just think it’s weird that each person gets a ten pound voucher with a “btw remember that meal we went for with A the other day , it was a bit shit wasn’t it , I complained and got a voucher so here’s your share “ type message,
If that’s what happened, I’d be annoyed and embarrassed if I was A

IveGotASongThatllGetOnYNerves · 22/08/2021 12:17

You're A are you?

LobotomisedIceSkatingFan · 22/08/2021 12:17

' . . . there were obviously things to complain about.'

Were there? How do you know?

Person B is crass in the extreme. It's bad form to complain about a meal for which you didn't pay without speaking to Person A. And when the vouchers did arrive m, they should've been offered in their entirety to A. Person B has received recompense for a meal they didn't pay for. Ridiculous.

SmokeyDevil · 22/08/2021 12:19

B is a twat. Complaining about food days after they've eaten it? What a moron they are, I'm surprised the restaurant gave them vouchers. They got a free meal and still complained.

Original poster
Cocoswhiskers · 22/08/2021 12:26

Yes, I am A and I do feel embarrassed and annoyed.

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