Child free holiday

[Rainydayss]

Thinking of booking a week holiday with DP to go in Oct. DS is 11 and will be with his dad. I am taking him abroad next summer and we have plenty of times together (trying to justify it!)
Should I feel guilty?
As anyone done it?

I couldn’t do it personally, holidays aren’t expensive and a luxury so if there is one we all go.
From his point of view, would he feel like you waited until he was elsewhere and went without him?

It’s a good opportunity to do something DS wouldn’t enjoy, maybe a city break or a destination with the kind of trips kids hate?

It might be a bit mean to go to, say, Disney without him. 😊

I would think that's ok. He's being included in a holiday too later in the year.

Especially if you tell him it will be looking at art galleries/walking/churches or whatever else is less appealing to him! He's not missing out on an amazing swimming pool or the like. (Presumably that is true enough!)

It’s ok not to involve your children in everything. I agree with a pp though - maybe not Disney! But a city break or similar.

No you shouldn't feel guilty. Go and enjoy yourself!

I had a child free holiday when DD was younger, did us the world of good and I knew DD was fine and being well looked after.

We have an adult break every year when the children are with their other parents. Does us so much good. Go for it

Don't feel guilty, you're allowed to go on holiday without him.

I’ve done it with DP (before we had our own baby this year). DD was on holiday with her Dad, his partner and her two DDs in Spain, she was 5yo and we went to New York. It was a fantastic holiday where we could do lots of non-child friendly things, and I knew she was having a great time too. I did miss her a lot of course. When we then got back DP and I then took DD on holiday too to Tenerife. She gets the best of both worlds! As I say we now have a baby DD ourselves so no more child free holidays so I’m glad we took the opportunity to when we could. My next quandary is whether to do a holiday with baby DD without older DD (now 7yo) when she with her dad- that seems worse than having a child-free holiday as we’d be doing child-friendly things without her there!

Yes why not. DD is a Scout and we do short breaks. when she is on a week long camp.

As long as there is plenty of family holiday time there is nothing wrong with it.

I have been on several holidays without my dc and some without dh too.
I don’t feel guilty about any of these trips.

Yes do it !!!!!

I haven't been away from him longer than 2 nights so not sure how I'd feel too, it's a strange feeling.