To ask how many of you are working full-time mothers to toddlers/babies

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Just that really. I’m working full time at the moment and worried I’m going to regret it and that it makes me a bad mum (mental health issues makes this worse). Stay at home mum, working mum, both great - I’m just looking for some reassurance I guess that I’m not alone?

Mum of teens and adults. I've worked full time since they were little. Very few problems growing up ( normal teen stuff) and pretty well adjusted adults with jobs/studying.

I do and I love it, its the best balance for us. I wouldn't be a very good stay at home mum and my daughter loves nursery. It makes the weekends extra special too. Everyone is different though so you have to find a balance that works for you

Me. I have a 1 year old and work full time. He goes to a childminder 5 days a week, 7:30 am - 5:30 pm.

No family nearby. The childminder is like extended family now though and he loves it there. Always has a big smile on his face in the morning.

Why I work? For myself, I enjoy having a salary being paid into my account monthly.

I also don't want us to be financially squeezed and that my partner has the full burden looking after us.

I want us to have a good quality of life and I like having my own money, too.

FT working mum here too, 8.30am-4.30pm Monday-Friday. I've got an almost 2 year old DS and a baby due in a few weeks. I'm not intending to have anymore children after this one and am intending to go back full time.

It makes me sad that I miss out on so much of their lives but we have a fantastic childminder who DS adores. He's with her 8-5 Mon-Fri. I may consider dropping down to 4 days in the future so I get more time with both children but going to wait and see how I feel nearer the time.

Single parent to a 17 month old. Been back at work full time since he was 11 months old.
He’s in nursery and loves it. I feel it makes our bond stronger because it means our weekends and evenings are extra quality time.
I did request part time work but it was rejected. I was upset at the time but now work is a break 😂

With my first I went back full time just before she was 6 months old. With my second I was able to take longer and have been working since she was 10 months.

Needs must. You will both be fine, be kind to yourself

Full time working mum of an 18 month old here. I went back to work at 16 weeks, DH took 10 weeks (he got full pay, I was ssm) and I had another 8 weeks. Since then it's a combination of nursery and GPs. She loves nursery, which helps. In an ideal world I'd maybe drop a day but we worked out that paying for a cleaner and nursery is more cost effective. I enjoy my job but do feel some pressure as I'm the higher earner

I have an 18 & 11 year old I worked FT until the youngest started school & reduced my hours to do school pick up. Youngest is now going up to secondary & I’m back up to FT.

I’m a great believer in do what’s right for your family whether that be a SAHP or both working.
We’ve both always prioritised our children so neither has missed school plays or special events. The fact that we both work hasn’t effected our children. Though I do wonder if we’ve both held a careers back a little by putting the kids first - but it has been worth it as we both equally play a part in their lives.

DS isn't a toddler anymore but I've worked f/t since he was 10 months.... he's now nearly 7.
Don't regret a thing and wouldn't do anything differently.

With DC1 I was a stay at home mum. With DC2 I studied and did voluntary work, part time. With DC3 I work full time.

For ME, the toddler years are the best, and I would work part time again if I could. I think I enjoyed the freedom of not being tied to a school day, you can just pop out on an adventure whenever. But that's me.

I can't go part time coz DH fucked off and I need to put food on the table, so I'm not going to feel guilty about it. And neither should you.

My sister is a single parent to a 2 year old. She works full time. She felt terribly guilty and like she was missing out. She rearranged her hours so she now does them across 3.5 days instead of 5. Now she's feel guilty for missing bedtime, and Mondays at work.

You'll always feel guilty because we've been told we can have it all, but we can't. I've done the maths. There aren't enough hours in the week for me to have a career, be the mum I want to be, have an active social life, have hobbies and exercise, cook from scratch, maintain an award winning garden, support my parents and learn a new language.