To be anxious around DSC as my due date approaches?

[GreatestShowman]

For reasons unbeknownst to me beyond the fact that kids are walking Petri dishes in general, DSC always seem to be ill and under the weather with something or other. I'm talking constantly.

When I gave birth to DD 2.5 years ago I ended up in intensive care for two weeks with sepsis, I was on the brink and almost didn't make it. The organism responsible was invasive group A strep. I developed PTSD and asked for a debrief at the advice of my therapist, i asked how it could have happened and the consultant midwife said in most cases she's seen she believes it comes from young children in the household who often carry the bacterium (was only DSC at that point, it then dawned on OH that DSC did have a sore throat the week I was induced)

Fast forward to now I'm about to have another baby and have decided not to send my own DD back to nursery until after my c section as I just can't risk the same happening again. I'm wanting to isolate in a sense and take some extra precautions to not get ill. I have some complications that could be problematic (Anti E antibodies with rising titre levels, baby is at risk of hemalytic disease of the newborn) and may need to be in hospital a while longer as it is and need extra help.

DSC, however, will obviously be continuing to go to school, continuing to go between friends houses and continuing to come here. All perfectly understandable I know.

But AIBU to feel anxious around them after what happened before? I haven't said anything to OH about how I feel, how could I?

As I write this we're just getting over a sickness bug that DSS brought round, not his fault I know, but I'm just dreading what's to come

I can't go and stay anywhere else I don't have anywhere to go and I obviously can't ban them from coming.

Please be gentle, I'm not in a good place at all. Nervous wreck to be honest.

You are right in that the common denominator on the EMBRACE report with women who died from group A strep does tend to be that they all had close involvement with young children - but they believe that it can be overcome with good hand hygiene - it's why when you've just had a baby you are advised to wash your hands before going to the toilet as well as after - ie you are wiping the runny nose or helping the toddler cover their mouths when coughing and then getting it on your hands.

It is natural that you are concerned though

BTW how close are you when you say 'about to have a baby' - if you are talking a few weeks it may be worth suggesting to DH that you switch to no overnight visits and he takes the SC out on fun day trips (shame you aren't up to a day at the beach due to your SPD) or if they do come round you go out for the day (or even just spend the day in your room) - a quick hi from the doorway is very unlikely to spread an infection - however this is a short term solution

@billy1966

He sounds like an awful selfish arse and his ex with him.

Sepsis is absolutely terrifying.

You poor woman.

YANBU for a minute.

Awful to think of you so vulnerable with such a selfish man.

Thank you Billy

I think hell would freeze over before his ex does anything for my benefit but OH certainly owes me the courtesy of putting my health first, not to the detriment of the kids of course but I'm sure he can manage to juggle both. It's not too much to ask given the circumstances.