DSC mum buying stuff for birthdays we already bought

[Hunkahunkaa]

AIBU to feel this is a dick move on her part.
My DSD is crazy about a particular hobby. DH and I bought him some kit for this hobby and som equipment from the shared gift list that DH has with his EW on amazon. They also discussed the gifts they were each getting. We went to a city 2 hours away to collect these gifts as they were out of stock everywhere else.
This week dh was dropping off the DSC and his EW declared that she has now bought this item and we will have to get something else. DSD will open gifts at mums in morning and they come to us in afternoon, I feel so annoyed that she has done this as we now have this gift that no-one else we know will want and we have to find something else a week before their birthday.
AIBU to feel this way???

Another vote for giving it early. You are just so excited about it you just couldn't wait to give it to them. Then get a few little things to open on the day. She'll have to just get something else.

Though this response will provoke a reaction and additional hassle.

@80sPadme you forgot to name change back again to your OP name

Give it early 💯. Ex wife being a total bitch.

@NotYourCupOfTea

Give it to him early

She sounds a bit bonkers

This.

Give her warning - no we bought this first, you can return yours but we will be giving it to him.

@Hunkahunkaa

if I say what it is ill be outed

It's a bloody pain and yep a dick move BUT roll your eyes, bite your tongue.

The mum is obviously feeling she needs to be better than you and ex. Let it go and get something else

[quote MrsElijahMikaelson1]@80sPadme you forgot to name change back again to your OP name[/quote]
I know I'm crap at this! 😂😂😂

another vote for give it to him early

Upvoting giving it to him early as well.

She sounds power hungry.

Just give him the gift first

So we decided not to give it to him early as that will just spark off more problems.
We are going to give it to him when we give gifts and simply say that we thought he loved the gift so much that we thought he could have one at both houses.
As much as it bugs me what she's done, I don't want to be the lesser of the people involved in the situation.

@80sPadme

No

The OP is called @Hunkahunkaa