Assuming you mean "making love" = "romantic, passionate sex" as opposed to more... physical/rough/carnal etc...?
We are a mix. Mostly the latter, with the former reserved for the odd lazy Sunday morning or middle of the night.
BUT - that's fine for us because we are both still satisfied, feel respected and looked after, and feel emotionally connected, even while we're doing objectively less 'romantic' stuff and on the further end of the kink scale.
I've bolded that because what I'm getting from your post is that in one 'type' of sex, you're not feeling loved/respected/are not having an orgasm/are feeling objectified.
You can have non-mushyromantic sex and still feel all those things (unless you're deliberately trying to not feel respected etc as a kink, of course)!, and it sounds as though you're not.
That's your problem. You can have a rough quickie against the kitchen counter and still feel loved and connected and have an orgasm, and it sounds as though these types of encounters are leaving you feeling as though one or more of those things is missing.
(Also, there's preference I suppose - if your preference is just for the slower more romantic stuff, and it's not just because you're more likely to enjoy yourself, that's also fine and your DP and you should be compromising and making sure you're both getting the kind of sex you want! But it sounds to me as though it's not necessarily preference but quality difference between the different 'types').