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Too much booze?!?

6 replies

IsItWine0ClockSoon · 20/08/2021 20:51

Keeping it short and sweet, I have become very uncomfortable with mine and hubby's social life. We have some couple friends (our children are all friends) but I am convinced they are functioning alcoholics and I am feeling unsettled and anxious about how we socialise. It always involves late nights, far too much booze and usually a hefty bill at the end of the night. I am so much happier with good company, a nice meal and a couple of glasses of wine but I am feeling very pressured to keep up the late night and endless alcohol socialising. I tend to flag by about 10pm so midnight feels torturous!
I have raised this with my husband and he feels I am overreacting and that I can't just call it a night when I choose. He feels I need to consider him more and that I should put up with the late nights every now and then and that if we're having fun we carry on.
My problem is that once i hit tiredness and have had a few drinks, it no longer becomes fun! I am happy to go without drinking but I just don't feel I'd last any longer then either!

Help! I can't figure out if I'm being an irritating high-maintenance wife or if he needs to support me more! 😩
Thank you x x

OP posts:
Merryoldgoat · 20/08/2021 20:53

No one should drink when they don’t want to. Of course YANBU

Shoxfordian · 20/08/2021 20:58

Enjoying a few drinks with a meal and staying up til midnight doesn’t make anyone an alcoholic! Seems like you’ve drifted apart from these friends though and maybe your dh as well

FrankButchersDickieBow · 20/08/2021 21:03

Why don't you be the driver then? Say drinking makes you feel tired etc.

What makes you think they're functioning alcoholics?

SchrodingersImmigrant · 20/08/2021 21:08

My friends and I can go until 2am. None of us are functioning alcoholicsConfused
We do meet up like this just every 4 months or so so lots to catch up on.
Depends on how often you do yours. If it's every week, absolutely fine to say no to it, if it's once every few months, he may have a point?

AtticusHoysAnus · 20/08/2021 21:34

How often do you see them?

If it's every week then fair enough, just be honest and say that's me done, nighty night.

If it's every few months then yeah have a late one.

Depends on how often it is, where you are, do you need transport to get home etc.

aerosocks · 20/08/2021 21:40

He feels I am overreacting and that I can't just call it a night when I choose. He feels I need to consider him more

Where's his consideration for you and your feelings?

There are few things worse than enforced socialising with a bunch of pissheads when you've had enough and want to go home.

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