So apparently I am a “psychopath” and to be honest I shouldn’t have raised my voice but in my heart of hearts I don’t believe things should be this hard work all the time.
My husband is working tonight and offered to go and get our little one from nursery before he had to leave, we share a car and he needs to take it to work, our other little boy was at home poorly.
We are due to do the big shop and don’t have much in and he’s very against getting takeaways at the minute as we are trying to save so I asked if when he was getting the little one from nursery could he pop into the little shop next door and get a tin of peas, well how dare I ask him to get a tin of peas when he had to get to work and why couldn’t I have went earlier and got peas (he was off all day today too) I am also working tonight but from home which I will do while getting the little ones dinner, keeping an eye on them and getting them to bed. I explained that it’s as much his responsibility to make sure that there is food in the house and sometimes we need to do stuff we don’t want to because we are parents, I do it all the time!
It went from there and I just lost it, he can be such hard work, everything is always a drama.
He can be so grumpy and short with us all, he never wants to do anything, on a Sunday if I ask does he want to take the little ones to the park it’s met with huffs and puffs as it’s his day off and then god forbid we are running a little late getting home and the f1 has started before we get home.
It sometimes feels like the kids and I can’t do right for doing wrong.
When I first met him he had a very single guy lifestyle and lived on his own and I just feel like he still has this self entitled single guy mentality like how dare we inconvenience him, he’s tired, he works hard... his jobs is harder than mine, he’s more stressed than everyone, if he has a headache it’s not like the headaches anyone else has, his are worse.
When the kids are in bed he’s totally different and so funny and great company, I love this time with him and love him so much but this just isn’t the family dynamic that I thought we would have, he’s also very hard working and is the main earner but he seems to give this amazing friendly version of himself to everyone else and then we get this short grumpy version at home, he says this is because he can be himself around us but am I ridiculous to think he should be making an effort sometimes to be that guy with us too? Not all the time because of course everyone has bad days. I always have to be happy, easy going and bubbly and the fun happy one mostly because I feel like I need to be that person for the kids especially because he can be short and secondly because he hates if I have a bad day and let’s me know I’m being grumpy.
I know it’s peas but AIBU, for me it was a straw that broke the camels back.
Sorry for the mess of this post I just typed typed typed.