We are genuinely a bit flummoxed as to how to approach this so would appreciate others input. So AIBU to not know what to do & ask for your help.
Our 18 yo DD goes off on a 10 day camping trip with her BFs family in a couple of weeks.
She has significant medical issues that leave her vulnerable to exhaustion, sensory processing flare ups, pain, dehydration & heat stroke & serious injuries from minor accidents, struggles to walk far due to a resurgence of it causing flare ups of significant hip pain. She is at an age where she is in denial of her limitations/health problems, doesn't look after herself properly, avoids treatment etc, leading to her currently being more prone to symptoms, pain, gastric problems, injury etc. She's also very have a go at anything which has lead to a string of disabling injuries over the years. She's never grown out of this, but the treatment regime has helped her cope much better for a few years, but she mostly refuses this now. Her medical condition is one that we've experienced difficulty with A&E having good understanding of the potential for more serious injury, leading to needing to be firm in pushing what her diagnosis means... she wouldn't be good at this as she can be quite shy, plus... her denial. She has medical ID cards & tags etc, but won't use them. Frequently doesn't take a supplement with her that would help a POTs attack, nor drinks enough.
We've taken other peoples kids camping with us many a time over the years & they've always given us the heads up about your similar issues, but they were younger & we respect that she's now a young adult & she's very angry about the idea that we talk to the parents, even though we know them. Her insistence is that her BF knows & he'll deal with it. He's a smashing lad, but quite a young 18yo & that seems a lot to expect of him. We hope she will be sensible & speak up etc, but we know she has form for not doing so & we can see her health isn't great due to skipping treatment. She's also stressing about how she's going to cope as she's exhausted.
We don't want to baby her, she's an adult, but is it fair not to let the other family know of potential problems. We're well aware from our own camping trips, that phone signals can't be relied on in the moment
How would you handle this ?
Thank you