To ask for help with salary

[Jellojelly]

Hello, I’m not sure what to do - I would appreciate any advice - posting for traffic

It has been recognised that my pay is well below market rate and has been for some time so it has been increased.

I asked for it to be back dated a few months but as the increase is large our area manager (it was talked about further up) said no. I said ok as I got something

I said I have a job offer but it would require relocation and they know it is unlikely I will move (mainly due to family responsibilities they are aware of)

I have been asked if the raise is enough to make me stay. I want to ask again for the back dating but can I when they know I won’t really leave? Will they say ok fine, hand in your notice?

I don’t want to burn my bridges and go to far and have no job

What do you think?

Tbh it always left a bitter note in my mouth from that moment. I also didn't want to bite my nose off to spite my tongue. The other job I was offered was lower paid and I don't think I would've really enjoyed it either 🙈 but I was so pissed off I would've gone, they never questioned the salary of the new post!!
I did leave a year later as from that moment I kept looking. Basically I learned from all that you have to demand what you really want at interview as getting pay rises that aren't a yearly increment (if lucky to even get that!) are awkward to ask for and rare as hens teeth to actually get.
Wish you luck and hope you can maybe move on too eventually

Thanks @raeya - hope your move made you happier