To be annoyed at my mums comments about DS’ development?

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DS turned 8 months last week, he can roll and sit unaided, but my mum keeps making comments about how he should be crawling, and standing whilst holding onto something.

He was a bit late to sitting unaided (just after 6 months) and we struggled with weaning at first although he's now getting there. My mum also made comments on this too.

AIBU to be annoyed?

Ignore her if you're happy with how he's doing. They all develop differently. The earliest mine crawled was 9m the latest 10.5 and walking was equally late. If he's generally engaged and progressing towards his milestones he is fine. There are milestone charts online that give you a range of some, half and most can do which shows you how big the range is. See eg www.babycentre.co.uk/a6477/baby-milestones-seven-to-12-months

If you're worried he's not meeting milestones perhaps ring the health visitor or local children's centre.

Oh, and no YANBU! I'd be annoyed too.

Two of my children didn’t bother to crawl at all-one shuffled on her bottom and one on her knees- all at different ages- they all got to walking around a year and they all do things so differently.Ignore your mum!

YANBU.

The crawling didn't happen hear until after a year for all 4 of mine.

I couldn't be listening to that and you shouldn't have to.

Ask her to stop criticising your baby, that it pisses you off.

I found a "oh should they " and "thats good to know" answers them but shuts them up as you have responded.

Each child will do things in their own time and when they are ready not when a book says they should.

Enjoy your time with your little one and keep doing what you are doing as its clearly working

Our daughter never crawled, just rolled everywhere then stood up and walked just shy of 14 months.

Our son was climbing things at 9 months and walking at 11.

They’re all individual. Ignore her.

“Me and the health visitor are quite happy”

And repeat.

Or ask her how old she was when she reached those milestones. Then she’ll see it doesn’t bloody matter.

My nephew never bothered crawling or bum shuffling, he just got up and started trying to walk one day! Don't worry about it

Your mums a bit clueless, which is surprising considering she’s raised at least one kid

My daughter didn’t craw at all, didn’t bum shuffle much either, many kids don’t. There’s nothing wrong with your child’s development and everything wrong with your mothers baby knowledge.

Oh tell her to button it. I hate when people do this.

My nephew was 2 before he stood or walked. Didn't crawl either. Ever.
Sister had him marked as having all sorts of issues. Doctors even told her to calm down . At about 2 years old he started cruising. Within two months he was walking fine.

Tell her every human is different

Mine were very late walkers and crawlers. In fact DD never crawled at all, but bum shuffled, and only walked properly at 18m. There’s nothing to worry about. 8 months is very young to be standing up.

Also my nephew couldn't sit up unaided til almost 1.

Nothing wrong with him in the slightest now

Never had a crawler here at all. Walked at 14 months.

Tell her you are actually enjoying him not trashing your home right now...

Ignore her he sounds perfectly normal to me . All kids do things at a different pace and these ages she's saying are a guideline only .

Mine all sat up at 8/9 months, crawled a lot once they got going and walked at 15/16 months. Supposedly late walking and crawling till late leads to good upper body strength and
Better fine dexterity.
The one that walked at 16 months is the fastest boy in his class. My daughter has the most beautiful handwriting at 5.

Plenty of babies aren’t crawling at 8 months. Between 7 and 10 months is considered average, but plenty are later and go on to have no issue whatsoever.

DH’s family were all bum shufflers and never crawled, just shuffled around and walked at about 18 months. Nothing wrong with any of the waking as adults.

It’s not a race. There no need to worry. Just smile and nod when your mum says things abs no she’s talking nonsense.

Errr, it’s quite normal not to be crawling at that age? Pretty sure not crawling wasn’t a thing to mention until the 12 month check. And even then it can mean absolutely nothing as PP have said. Just ignore her she clearly doesn’t know what she is talking about

My DS was actually pretty slow in everything. Never in a worrying way, always within the right windows, but he was definitely taking his time. :D
I would also be annoyed hearing the remarks, just pretend you did not hear

Tell her your child is too busy engaging in intellectual pursuits to be bothered with crawling atm.

There is so much variation in what babies do and when, if you and your health visitor are happy with his development then I would cheerfully ignore anything your mum has to say about it.

I'm a doctor and agree with PPs. There is a huge range of normal development. Average is about 7 to 10 months, but a couple of months either side is also completely normal. Some babies never crawl and go straight to walking- also completely normal.

I think your mother could do with crawling back into her box about this one.

If you are still worried at 12 months, see your GP who will be able to assess the whole child (as crawling in isolation doesn't really tell you much). In the mean time I'm sure your health visitor would be happy to give you some advice and reassurance.