To just give up and carry on as we are?

[FuriousLittleBugger]

Because I don't have the bloody strength that other mum's seem to have to get their babies to sleep independently!

My DS (6 months) will sleep like an angel if he's in bed with me, it's blissful.

He goes down in his cot for around an hour and then it's up down up down until I just get too exhausted to bother and end up putting him in bed with me. The past couple of weeks I've just been getting him straight in bed with me and skipping the cot completely because quite frankly I can't be fucking bothered, I am TIRED.

DH sleeps in the other room anyway and has done since before baby was born so it's not an issue on that front.

So AIBU to say I am just not cut out for this and to take the easy option if keeping him in bed with me for the inevitable. The thought of sleep training and having rubbish night's sleep for multiple days in a row makes me feel sick, I am absolutely awful on a bad night's sleep. Everyone keeps insisting I must do it eventually, but it feels impossible!

Unpopular opinion but, at 6 months, he'll sleep once he realised he's not getting the attention. Dc1 did this, mil took her for 3 nights and didn't pander to her as I did (lived with parents, worried about her disturbing them). She's slept through since.

Also, I've had another 4dc since. All slept through by 5 months following mil guidance

Just do what works for you for a decent nights sleep.

It all works out eventually.

You don’t have to do sleep training if you don’t want to! Lots of us choose not to and still end up with toddlers and young children perfectly capable of sleeping through the night in their own bed.

Sounds like co sleeping is working really well for you so why change things?

Just do what gives you the most sleep. You'll get told about rods for your own back and bad habits but honestly it really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. Little babies want to be near their mums. It's normal. And if you both get proper sleep then just go with it.

Keep him with you. Dc are evolved to want to sleep with you near. I bed shared with both of my dc (1 naturally good sleeper, one woke often) - both now sleep well in their own beds but i have lovely memories of shared sleep.

If he’s sleeping when he’s with you, so be it
All of my kids slept with me as babies and if cause no long term issues whatsoever.
Please don’t listen to people who say you are spiking the baby or making a Rod fit your back etc, babies aren’t manipulative. They are tiny little humans who are letting you know they have an unmet need
Get a good nights sleep and fuck all the books and routines off imo

Embrace it -how many teenagers want to snuggle up with Mum in bed - life’s too short -enjoy it!

Also DD is 2 and we still co-sleep (sort of, obviously she goes to bed a lot earlier than me, but we bed share when I come to bed later) and I love it. Some day soon she will move to her own bed and that will be that, so for now I just enjoy it. It's a lovely way to wake up.

I've 5 children. All.of them have co-slept to varying degrees, and all of them bar the baby are happy in their own beds each night. This is such a lovely time, and there a nothing better than baby cuddles through the night. I think it's perfectly reasonable to have been so close to you for so long, that they want to be near you now. Why wouldn't they want that comfort? If you're both getting the sleep you need, I see no reason to change anything.

Co-slept with both of mine; eventually they moved to their own beds but at their own pace. Never an issue for us. Eldest now 18 and about to leave home! I loved it - I think if you can sleep while they are in with you and they sleep too, it’s a win win.