Unknown gender on nursery forms?

[Downthewarren]

I registered my child for nursery today, And on the form under gender, It had Male, Female and Unknown.

I'm pretty laid back about all this. My child will decide who they want to be when they want to and we'll support.

But their birth gender will be put down on the form and they'll be treated as such until they tell us otherwise.

What's everyone else's thoughts on this?

I’d think it’s for people registering a child that hasn’t been born, and they don’t know if they are having a girl or a boy 🤷🏼‍♀️

I did think this, But the nursery starts at 12 months. So surely you'd know by then 😂

@NoProbLlamaa

I’d think it’s for people registering a child that hasn’t been born, and they don’t know if they are having a girl or a boy 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’d say it’s this, rather than any comment on the gender debate.

No such thing as birth gender
Nursery age children don't have gender identities so that's a pretty stupid question to ask but I'm sure there would be some dumbass parents who complained if it just said male or female

It's probably for children who have yet to be born

@Downthewarren

I did think this, But the nursery starts at 12 months. So surely you'd know by then 😂

No you wouldn’t as I visited nurseries when I was pregnant, more than a year before they would eventually start

@NoProbLlamaa

I’d think it’s for people registering a child that hasn’t been born, and they don’t know if they are having a girl or a boy 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'd say this.

Most nurseries also take children much younger than 12 months.

@Downthewarren

I did think this, But the nursery starts at 12 months. So surely you'd know by then 😂

I registered my eldest in the May, as she was born in the September to start the following September. I didn’t know what she was, so would have needed the ‘unknown’ box.

I think it’s unnecessary to have a third option (unless this is the kind of nursery you register for before birth) but then I think the whole question is unnecessary. What difference will it make to the nursery if your child is a boy or a girl (in the unusual circumstances of a child with medical reasons why it’s important or ambiguous I presume you’d want to talk to the nursery anyway). What will they do with that information?

This is mumsnet so you will be told, its sex not gender....

I have worked with two intersex children whose parents decided to not assign them a gender until they were old enough to decide.

I honestly didn't even know you could enroll a child in nursery before they were even born!

That answers that then! 😂 Thought it was a bit odd 😂

We registered our daughter at our preferred nursery when I was 6 months pregnant, to start at 12m. Their waiting lists are loooong.

My local nursery it's a year waiting list if not longer so you never know

@ChewChewPanda

We registered our daughter at our preferred nursery when I was 6 months pregnant, to start at 12m. Their waiting lists are loooong.

I feel very lucky that I never even thought about it and got a place within 2 days then 😳 Honestly something I wouldn't have ever thought of 🤦🏻‍♀️

@x2boys

This is mumsnet so you will be told, its sex not gender....

My first thought! Sex is boy or girl, gender is male or female.

@bloodywhitecat

I have worked with two intersex children whose parents decided to not assign them a gender until they were old enough to decide.

Both of those children would have had a sex, which the parents would have known. Since most intersex conditions do not lead to genuine ambiguity this makes no sense, as the children would have developed appearing clearly male or female, regardless of their condition. Nobody assigns children a gender, even children with intersex conditions. Those parents may have been well intentioned but they were entirely misguided and I hope someone disabused them of their odd notions by the time the children got to school. Teaching children they don't have a sex is not good parenting.

Deffo says gender on the form 😂

We have a lot of parents usually parents of of siblings register very early on...im guessing it's more likely for that!

For nursery, yes probably is signing up before they're born, but you never know...... I signed my 3 year old up for our local library's summer reading challenge. Question on the form - "How would you describe yourself? Boy, Girl, Prefer not to say, Other - please specify"
Not really sure why a child has to identify with any particular gender to be able to receive a sticker for reading a book!

I didn’t with my first one, but I wanted my second and third to go to the same nursery so I definitely put their names down before they were born. Just put first name as baby…

My children’s nursery has gender on the form. They a huge, huge chain.
I cross it out, write ‘sex’ and then fill it in.

I voted YANBU now feel dumb finding out it's for unborn babies 😂

@husbandcallsmepickle
My first thought! Sex is boy or girl, gender is male or female.

Isn’t that the other way round? Because animals are referred to as male or female but animals don’t have genders?? Or have I got mixed up somewhere?

@DeflatedGinDrinker

I voted YANBU now feel dumb finding out it's for unborn babies 😂

Haha not as dumb as I feel for posting