To sometimes not feel right to be a mum

[Belle82]

Please tell me others have days like this.

I’ve been with really ratty this week with my little girl and I feel utterly horrible for it because I know she absolutely doesn’t deserve it.

She’s been playing up a little more than usual lately, but I don’t know if that’s the case or if I’m just not handling taking care of a 3 year old and being pregnant as well.

I just feel so guilty for being so ratty with her but I don’t know how to stop everything getting on top of me.

I’m such a better mum when I can get “breaks” from her, but she’s been off nursery for 5 weeks (school term time only) and thanks to us being thinking we were being clever (booking a get away after school holidays) and nursery closing earlier than schools. It will be 10 weeks in total with no breaks.

I feel like my mental health is hanging on by a thread and I need a break. But that’s not my little girls fault and I hate myself for being so short with her 😔

Does anyone else ever feel this way?

I get you - and you have it much harder than me! I get ratty with my 1 year old especially at dinner time when she chucks stuff or won't eat - I go on at her, sometimes shout, then feel absolutely terrible.
There are ways I can change, and I know I must because it's going to affect her

Yeah, what support do you have?

Yep. Just husband and I. No other support.
Finding it hard work with my almost 6 and almost 1 year old.

Oh my goodness, please don't feel bad like this at all. This age is so hard, anyone would find such a long time frame with no childcare very stressful. And you're pregnant as well! Please be kind to yourself xx

I feel you. DD goes to nursery 3 days a week in the holidays even though I work term-time only. I just can't be 'mum' 24/7 for weeks on end.

There was a thread similar to this a weeks or so ago. Lots of people feel like this I am doing 10 weeks too. Some days are great but right now I have a cold and there is no let up from the kids. Not my best parenting tbh. I wish my husband would leave work so I could get a break but he can't... it is only Tuesday it is going to be a long week.

Thank you all so much.
I do have my husband and he’s great and he’s so patient with her which I love. But if I ever say how hard it is he will look at me like - what are you on about this is easy!

My MIL lives close by but she complains all the time about her and gets really personally insulted when my toddler is having an off day! She doesn’t play with her at all.
My mum lives 200 miles away so I only see her very irregularly.

She kicked off on Monday when I said she was going to holiday club, (she’s only been once in 5 weeks) it was so bad I couldn’t make her go because I felt far too guilty.
I have another day booked tomorrow but I’m concerned it’s going to be the same thing.
I can’t believe I’m going to say this but I really resented her being with me on Monday because in my mind I had built it up to being a day I wouldn’t be with her

OP,
You are pregnant and tired, ease up on yourself.

She needs to go to nursery tomorrow.
You both need the break.

Most women would have been pissed off on monday.
She needs nursery and you need to put your feet up.
Avoid your MIL.

Could you go and visit your mum for a bit?

I'm pregnant and sometimes snap at / get cross with my 3 year old - so you're not the only one. The guilt afterwards is immense! Things that help me:

• being out of the house as much as possible as I find parenting out of the home easier
• apologising to ds and giving him cuddles
• there is a YouTube video by Emily Norris called 'how to be a calm and happy parent' which is really useful.

Tomorrow is a fresh start op

I sometimes feel the same...about needing a break etc...and that's why I will only have my son..no more children..