Am I being too picky

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Matched with a guy on OLD a few days ago and it's been going well so far but it's still very early stages, he's 28 and I'm 21. He also sent me a picture of him where I could see he had a tattoo on his arm, on his profile his tattoo wasn't visible, no offense to anyone who has tattoos but I'm personally not a fan of them. I'm just wondering am I being too picky in preferring the age gap to the smaller and for him not too have tattoos and not pursuing things for these reasons?

It’s not too picky if these things are important to you. But so many people have tattoos now you might struggle a bit depending on other criteria/ who you’re matching with.

Personally I wouldn’t dump someone for that if he was attractive and otherwise compatible. But you can dump someone for any reason you choose, it’s a free country and it’s up to you.

Completely depends on what you're looking for.
Has to be perfect because you're happy single? Then dump.
Really want a relationship? Then don't.

I just wonder if I have unreasonable expectations , I'm 21 and never been in a relationship before, the age thing we haven't discussed it yet but I thinking in my head we might be in different life stages. What happens if he wants to have kids in 5 years time, I'll be 26 then. I don't know if I want to have kids and if I do have kids I don't want to have them until I'm well in to my 30's. Basically at the moment I'm massively overthinking things.

Am I overthinking the age gap? It wasn't until I matched with him that I started to wonder whether I would prefer to be with someone who was more of a similar age to myself but then I wonder whether I'm throwing away something which might not be that bad after all, it's not like it's a 30 year age gap or anything.

You are over thinking both of these things. You've never met the guy and have already started worrying about him wanting to have babies with you in 5 years.

Get some experience of dating and being in relationships with people you enjoy spending time with.

Worry about marriage material later.

I speak from experience.

@Palavah Thank you yes I am overthinking it definitely, I'll follow your advice

Just remember that you don't have to settle! Especially right at the start of your dating life, at age 21! Guys wanting to date a nice 21 year old are not a scarce resource.