8 weeks pregnant and not sure what to do.

[Jul1234]

Not here for any judgement but merely reaching out for advice / support.

I have fallen pregnant and I am currently 8 weeks - complete shock. I recently rekindled a relationship with a previous ex boyfriend who was a gambler. However he has been straight for about 18 months and is doing just great. But I am very clued up and am not stupid as to the effects and relapse etc.

I have a stable home, a decent wage, supportive family but can't help but feel I want to abort. I just don't feel ready and have never felt maternal in anyway. It seems like the hardest decision in life to make and not knowing what the future will hold. For the record, I love my partner immensely and do feel he would be a great dad. I just can't fight he has this problem underlying potentially that may change things in a split second (previous experience).

Its ok to feel like this. You can make a decision either way without having to justify your reasons to anyone.

Maybe a mental pros and cons list? Or think which decision would you regret more?

If it’s not planned, ‘father’ is questionable and neither of you are ready (or even in a relationship) abortion can be a viable option.

Otherwise you may end up like so many here complaining about ‘father’ not supporting them

You don’t have to continue with an unwanted pregnancy just because some of the trappings are in place. It’s entirely up to you and what feels right for you.

Hope you’re ok

It's absolutely ok to have an abortion if that's what you wnat and what's best for you.
I would do the same in your case.

Sorry you’re in the situation OP, it must be horribly difficult. I think you should speak to your partner, you’re in a loving and committed relationship and should be able to discuss these things. Let him know how you’re feeling and hopefully he’ll be understanding and you can both make a decision together.

But, it’s your body and your choice and you need to do what you feel is best for you. Good luck