NCing parents. Email content?

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I'm one of the Mumsnet daughters of a narcissistic parent and I have decided that enough is enough.
For a bit of context, they are in their 80s, he ended "the relationship" (with me) last November because he "couldn't cope" with me (I had stood my ground over him berating-by-proxy my DD for having gained some weight).
We then had a "meeting" in March and he proceeded to make my mum's life a nightmare for a few months. She told me how she was suicidal. The vitriol has now refocused back to me because I wasn't dutiful enough following an elective surgery he has had, and he and my mother are presenting that united front again. I've had the phone put down on me twice in a week.
I have booked therapy (how fucking expensive are therapists?! Never done it before!) and now need to write The Email.
I'm thinking:

Dear Mum and Dad,
I cannot cope with the dynamics of our relationship and so will no longer respond to communications.
I wish you all the best,
Streamsofwords

Please advise, Mumsnetters who have done this

The new version of your email sounds good and to the point. They are likely to react no matter what you say because they are likely to bombard you with 'why'. But the important part of this is that you feel some kind of closure because then you can start healing, no matter how they react. Wishing you lots of luck with it.

@Muchmorethan

Be truthful with yourself OP. Are you hoping that they will contact you and apologise?

Totally understandable if you are

This would never, ever happen! I am selfish, undutiful, ungrateful, and (on so many occasions) unworthy of forgiveness. That is what I am to them. Except, as they age, I am becoming more useful. But even then I have to do it a certain way and be the proactive devotee.

It's done. Email sent.
Thank you, everyone
xx

If your DC are old enough to have phones and their own email, blocking your parents on those may also be useful too.

I would have left out the "please" too but it's fine now.

Enjoy the peace.

Well done for sending it. I sent a similar one about three years ago and that alongside some therapy I can honestly say it was the best thing i've ever done. I'm a freer, happier and lighter person for cutting them out my life. I've had a few flying monkeys but thanks to the stately home threads I was prepared and I didn't engage at all. I wish all the future happiness and freedom in the world!

LongTimeMammaBear - done
bettybigballs - these are the stories I like to hear. Therapy is booked, starting in September.

You have taken a good step, keep going forward. Love and hugs x