AIBU to take kids away

[dorothyoz]

My husband has tested positive for COVID this morning (LFT) - currently awaiting the PCR test results to confirm. COVID isolation rules have changed as of today (16th August) meaning that the kids and I don’t have to isolate with him at home (legally) as we have no symptoms, I am double jabbed and the kids are both under 18.

My dilemma is this. if we stay at home with him, this increases our chances of getting COVID (we’ve all tested negative this morning). But if we go away and leave him at home (he has very mild symptoms) to isolate alone, we may risk passing it on to others if we develop COVID in a day or two, which is possible.

What would you do in this situation? Stay at home (YABU) or go away with the kids (YANBU).

Tricky decision and interested to know what you all think. DH is sitting in the garden on his own while we decide what to do!! Thank you 😊

I'd go away. If he has it and you carry on about your daily business you could contract and spread it anyway.

The less time you spend with him the less likely you are to contract it, and it means he'll have the run of the house so his isolation will be a bit more bearable.

I'd follow the new guidance and stay! Just LFT yourself and the kids, to keep an eye on the situation. Then you can isolate if you test positive!

I'd go away.

My friends (couple, with two kids) had this situation.

The sick parent holed up in an en-suite bedroom and didn’t leave it. Hard to keep the kids out though. But they did it. (Take stuff you need out first as you won’t be in the room again until the isolation is up).

The well parent and kids had the run of the house and were able to supply food on trays outside the door etc. Washed dishes carefully in hot water and multiple hand washing etc.

Be there if he needed anything. Could phone an ambulance in the event of breathing issues etc.

Nobody else in the house caught it. So it can be done.

Transmisiability is 48 hours. So it you haven’t caught it by then you should go.

How far away would you be if you need to get home if either one of you develop symptoms or if your dh becomes really ill and needs you there ? You might want to stay for that reason , to be there for him but then again he might like the peace to recover without people there .

If you’re hours away I would stay at home .

Depends what "going away" actually means

I’d put him in part of the house on his own (supply with food obvs) to avoid you all getting it, give it a few days, take tests and then go away if negative. If his symptoms worsen and he needs help to look after himself then obviously you’d need to rethink.

When I had it I holed up in the bedroom, dh took the spare room and no one else caught it, we are super lucky to have that sort of space though.

I'd not want to go far and regularly check in with your dh, has he been vaccinated? If so then I'd say you're all quite low risk whatever you do, if not then I'd want to keep a close eye on him incase he gets seriously ill.

Difficult one. If you go away and then test positive, are you then putting more people at risk?

I'd stay. Chances are you may already be infected but I think it can take up to 6 days to test positive? (Feel free to correct me if I'm wrong.)

Also what happens if he gets really poorly?

I’d put him in part of the house on his own

Ideally yes, but I guess it depends how big your house is! Mine isn't big enough to do that.

Are you staying in UK?

Are you able to get home quickly should you need to?

If the answer to both those is yes I'd go.

Every other close contact will be going about their day from today so why shouldn't you?

Thanks to everyone who has commented so far. He is double jabbed, currently with v mild symptoms. If we ‘go away’ it will either be an Airbnb in the same town or camping no more than 15 minutes away so would be very easy to get home if he needed anything.

In that case I'd go, but stay in regular contact and take daily LF tests.

Someone had it in our household of 5

None of us stayed away from them and none of us ever got it

It really isn't necessary to isolate someone in a room

Having had double jabbed friends with mild symptoms ending up needing oxygen recently, I would not want to be away overnight or for large chunks of the day. No matter how easy it is to pop back, it's no substitute for being there IMO.

Of course most people are fine, single people get covid too etc.

If it's local then I would go - but avoid going indoors to eat/drink & avoid things like swimming where it's easy to pass on. Then test each day.

I’d not risk passing it to others so would stay home. There are still CEV children out there with no protection and even people with both jabs can end up in hospital.

I couldn’t go knowing he was positive.

Airbnb yes. Camping no - think about shared toilet facilities.

I wouldn't go away, if you have a spare room stick him in it.

Also is DH OK with the idea of you all going away?

To be honest, if I tested positive, I'd be quite scared; double-jab or not.