Fathers comment - am I just being sensitive?

[Manyview]

Parents staying for the week. Sunday lunch, everyone’s tired after a busy few days. 4 year old has meltdown at being asked to finish veg, standard 4 year old thing

Dad mutters “see. Tired. You take him out too much”

I feel really gutted. Yes we do lots of stuff busy mostly because we both have full time jobs and we are trying to make weekends have some joy.

I generally think I’ve been a really good daughter. Only child, I embrace them to be with us, spend time, engage with them, I even paid their mortgage off.

I resisted responding. But now I feel so hacked off. What else do they sit and judge? Am I just too sensitive?

Yes

You're tired, the grandparents are likely more exhausted and the comment probably slipped out. Unless he's always like that, let it go.

In a word, yes. it was a simple observation, many tantrums are due to being overtired, not something to be ‘gutted’ about.

I think it's not worth dwelling on it. That's only his opinion, not necessarily the truth. I do think that rushing around all weekend, every weekend is quite stressful though. Do what you feel is right, OP!

He was being judgemental. Maybe he's right? Either way it's understandable to be a bit sad! Don't let it fester though.

You started saying everyone's tired, could he have a point?
Either way everyone's knackered so forget it

Thanks all

@Manyview

Thanks all

Manyview that's not how AIBU works you have to argue

Ah sorry! I am still hacked off - makes me worry they judge me and forget just how tough it is parenting going children and working full time. But accept the view that maybe I just need to get over it. Nothing ever good enough for them no matter what i do!!

Young children not doing children

Wait, what??? You paid their mortgage off??
Do grown up kids do this? Bring it on!

@Manyview how are you feeling now?

It was a throwaway comment is all. My daughter and grandson live with me. We have differing standards and opinions on his behaviour and I say what I think. It's easier to tolerate bad behaviour when it is your child. It's harder when you are observing something and much older !