To be shocked my dd gets sent home all the time

[Concerned67]

She’s 25 has made multiple attempts on her life recently. Also quite underweight they just send her home not even with a crisis team appointment. Just seems shocking to send such a vulnerable young woman home.

The conservative government have been withdrawing resources from the mental health services for years now.

Yes I understand that but didn’t realise how shocking it really is

It's terrible and it's not ok. I'm sorry.

Yes, that's how it is, although the crisis team isn't much use anyway! They are just gatekeepers to keep people, out of inpatient beds! She would probably get a different person every time, who would ask the same questions as the last person. They would say they will ring at a certain time tomorrow, and then not do it. Their aim is to get people on medication - which is no use for some conditions like BPD. They also make stupid suggestions (which they probably imagine is sign posting to help within your family, but if it were feasible, you would probably have thought of it 10 years ago).

Yes she’s had the whole have a bath stuff. I’m worried she’s going to do long term damage. She’s also had some amazing support from crisis team.

It's horrendous OP. I have a friend who has a 22 year old. She has been in and out of units sent to various ones uk and down the country, in and out of supported housing. It's a shambles but it sounds like there has been some provision for her and it doesn't sound like your DD is getting any such support. I have no suggestions, just sympathy and hope that there is some help for your DD around the corner which will make a difference for her z

They just keeps saying about dbt which U.K. sure will help but obviously won’t overnight

You aren't being unreasonable, that sounds awful.

As a previous poster said, underfunding has really impacted mental health services to the point where they aren't a whole lot of help to the most vulnerable.

Does she have counselling? If not, can she afford private counselling? If so, definitely try and get her some. If not, talk to her GP and get some arranged on the NHS, though the waiting list will likely be long :-(

Unfortunately, sometimes in cases like this you need to push and push for services to do something more to help. Don't stop fighting and question every poor decision made by health professionals. The charity MIND may be able to offer advice.

Sending hugs, so sorry about this situation

Do they know you are there for her? This sounds awful but when my family member’s son was unwell (he is mentally ill) she had to literally tell social workers she wouldn’t support him and wasn’t going to help him. She isn’t a mean person but couldn’t help him as he had really difficult behaviours. They did end up placing him in sort of supported living type of place.

I have noticed many services seem to basically rely on the family to do most stuff. Even with disabled/elderly people who really need help they try to cut corners. I’m sorry for your daughter and hope she can access help.