Overthinking intentions

[BexiB]

Right so, my friend has a big birthday coming up, and i would have not long given birth perhaps under two months or so and wish to breastfeed. We are also the first to have children out of all of the group of friends. Now with his birthday, it is highly likely that he will ask for me not to bring my newborn baby. Or just my husband go on his own. What would you do/think in this situation?

Too many "it depends"

At that stage, I'd have been more than happy to stay at home, snuggles with the new baby, but others seemed to recover from their births quicker than I did.

If it is local, I might choose to go with dh for an hour or two and leave baby with a trusted sitter.
Or it if were a long standing pal of dh's and I was only invited as I was married to him, I'd probably say for him to go ahead without me.

Everyone feels differently. There's no right or wrong.
I'd probably have made a different choice with dc1 from what I would with dc3.