Barring order

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I got a barring order two months ago after repeated, vexatious applications to the family court over the last three years and two separate court cases in the last 10 months alone.

I have made a mistake and put my son's week holiday with his father in my diary for w/c 23rd instead of when he was actually going, which is w/c 16th.

My son and I are at the other end of the country and will be until Friday as I'm combining some work with a trip for us. I have offered to reimburse his father the money he had paid for their camping trip and apologised profusely for the mistake.

He is now saying he is going to apply to the court again because I've broken the order.

Given there's a barring order in place so all applications should be prescreened, what is the likelihood that the court will not proceed with an application? AIBU to think a judge should surely kick this out given I have only literally just got a barring order.

I know a barring order is meant to be a filter and doesn't block applications entirely. I'm so traumatised from years of court that I just couldn't bear it.

Why have you not bought your son back?

I'm sorry your ex is so awful BUT you need to get him back - his dad has booked a week away and the mistake is yours

yes a more reasonable person might compromise - but he's not

can you child get the train?

How old is your son - as you're combining work and a holiday together it sounds as if he's old enough and sensible enough to be left unsupervised.

Could he get the train back by himself?

You should probably put this in legal.

I don’t think it’s the length of time since you got the barring order that determines whether he’d be permitted to bring the case, it’s the grounds he has. Failing to make your son available for court ordered time with his father, especially a week long holiday, sounds like very good grounds to me. I was under the impression a barring order’s purpose was to stop spurious use of the courts, not prevent all access to courts. But I’m not a solicitor.

I don't think you can choose whether to comply with the contact. You have to make your child available - if you've made a mistake you need to put it right, even if it inconveniences you.