WhatsApp Group Chat

[AnonymousCheerleader]

I was added to a WhatsApp group chat for my friends hen do. It was a mixture of family and friends; some of met before but many I hadn't.

The hen do has been and gone so I've left the group chat. I didn't announce my departure, I just left.

The bride hasn't mentioned it to me at all but the other bridesmaid is now ignoring me (I'm guessing because of this, but I can't be 100% sure).

Was I rude to leave?

No its extremely common. I've had a few hen do/party group chats and everyone leaves after the event.

That's what I thought! I don't know if others left as well because I was the first

Has the wedding been and gone yet?

I would have probably waited til after the wedding to leave the group chat, especially if I was a bridesmaid. Falling out with you over it is a massive overreaction though!

Did you badmouth her on the hen do and now you've left someone's told her?

Not at all. I wasn't drinking so I know I was on my best behaviour.

I just didn't see the need to stay in it. Not even until after the wedding. I only contributed to it once anyway, to confirm I was going. Then it descended into a load of selfies so I muted it anyway!

How strange. Is she ignoring you in person or are you messaging her directly?

I've done the same in the past and would think it fairly usual - or at least not unusual enough for someone to get annoyed by it.

It might have been better to wait til after the wedding just in case it gets used for something useful.

It sounds as though you don't have much in common with most of these people so it doesn't really matter what this other bridesmaid thinks imho. Maybe you have come across as a little stand offish but see point one. Forget about it.

We have a bridesmaid chat and she's stopped answering on there. And I sent her a text directly about a surprise we were planning for the bride and she hasn't replied. This was over two weeks ago. Unlike her.

I could be completely wrong but I can't think of what else could have offended her. We aren't close friends so we don't talk a lot but we always got on when we do.

Ah she might have other stuff on?