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No contact, am I doing the right thing?

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Silverrain2 · 13/08/2021 22:47

One week since not contacting the guy I was seeing (he hasn't contacted me either). I'm itching to contact him as I miss him. Back story - was not together long and was nothing serious. The last time we had a conversation I suggested we meet up, he said he likes the sound of that. I felt he was unsure and nothing materialised - I have felt I was flogging a dead horse for the past couple of weeks as his interest seemed to dwindle.

I've decided to back off and not contact him in any form but this is hard Sad. Am I doing the right thing?

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Silverrain2 · 13/08/2021 22:54

Should I give it a certain amount of time if he doesn't contact me? Or suck it up and move on?

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WorraLiberty · 13/08/2021 22:57

Have you two ever met?

parietal · 13/08/2021 22:59

move on

Antsinmypantsneedtodance · 13/08/2021 23:07

Happened to me with OLD. Turned out the guy was seeing someone else he was more interested in.

Didn't stop him from messaging me randomly about 18 months later when it had ended with said girl. Shame for him that he messaged on the same day i was acknowledging 1 year with my then BF now DH. I moved on pretty quick and glad I did. No one should be second choice.

Move on. Plenty more fish. He's a waste of time.

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Silverrain2 · 13/08/2021 23:07

@WorraLiberty yes lots of times. We got on great most of the time. He is going through a stressful and busy period and he did explain this on our first date.

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Silverrain2 · 13/08/2021 23:11

Sorry to make my original post more clear
We would see each other often enough and stay in reasonable contact. We got on great but did have a couple of conversations about lack of communication at times with him being so busy. However he is going through a stressful and busy period and he did explain this on our first date.

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NotableTree · 13/08/2021 23:14

Of course you’re doing the right thing. You barely know one another, it wasn’t serious, you already felt you were flogging a dead horse, then he faded out and didn’t get in touch again. What would the alternative to not contacting him be, OP? Try to reignite things with someone who patently isn’t interested?

MondeoFan · 13/08/2021 23:17

I think I remember your original post. Was this where his gran died?
If so I'd maybe reach out to him to ask if all ok? In a no pressure kind of way

AffableApple · 13/08/2021 23:23

He'll be in touch in a few days. To make sure you're still on the hook. You can see he's got this set up just how he wants it... for whatever reason...? Look after yourself. This won't end well.

Justcallmebebes · 13/08/2021 23:41

He's not into you. Move on he's a fuckwit

NotAntiVax · 13/08/2021 23:58

If this is the one who’s gran died…how many threads are you going to make about him?

He’s not interested, he’s not contacted you or shown you he cared whether he speaks to you or not, he’s also not bothered to give you an explanation as to his flakeyness or why he hasn’t contacted you.

He’s a knob, he used you and you need to move on, for your own sanity and the sanity of people on here who keep reading your threads.

Catflapkitkat · 14/08/2021 00:02

As above, I was just about to say 'he's just not that into to you'. In my opinion if you sense they are on the wane - they usually are.

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Silverrain2 · 14/08/2021 00:13

No gran has died as of late. You must have me confused with another thread. Sorry.

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