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Worried about neighbours dog.. Don't know what to do..

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C0ncerned0 · 13/08/2021 21:55

I've name changed for this and obfuscated some details.
Have a fairly good relationship with my next door neighbours. It's a very much "neighbour" relationship. We have helped each other out with neighbourly such things, such as taking in of parcels etc.. However, I'm becoming increasingly worried about their dog. They have a large dog, and I do see both of them walk the dog before work.. However, the dog is literally left in the house ALL day whilst they go to work, I heard him whimpering today. It was really sad.. When I came back from work myself today, he came running to the window and was just sat there, I could see him through the curtains. A couple of months ago, they text me asking to keep an ear out for a delivery, I messaged asking if they were in yet and they responded "no, is the dog crying bothering you?" I said no of course not and they said they were looking at the possibility of getting a dog walker in the coming weeks.. Both of them in the couple work long shifts, it's often after 6pm that I see one of their cars back from work.. I feel so sad for the dog.. Naturally as soon as one of them walks through the door, he goes absolutely ballistic and its like someone is being thrown around! So loud.. I worry because he's in the house all day for as long as the working day is.. They don't keep the back door to the garden open, so he's couped up all day :( when I saw him coming to the window today, I just wanted to go in and get him.
I'm usually a very much keep myself to myself person and don't get involved or busy myself with other peoples business.. But this is wrong isn't it?.. What would others do?..

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QueenAdreena · 13/08/2021 21:57

Say that you hear the dog crying regularly and you think the dog walker would be a good idea.

StarDrawers · 13/08/2021 21:57

Ask them if they've had any luck with getting the dog sitter as you've noticed him whimpering.

Greenmarmalade · 13/08/2021 21:57

I’d offer to go in and see the dog every lunchtime if I was home.

30degreesandmeltinghere · 13/08/2021 21:57

Do you like ddogs? Have some spare time?

C0ncerned0 · 13/08/2021 21:59

No I don't work from home. I work 5 days a week in an office. I'm a key worker so have worked throughout the pandemic so have never worked from home. My workplace is 30 minutes from home.

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C0ncerned0 · 13/08/2021 22:00

I do love dogs yes.. But I don't have the time to help myself, I would if I could.
Is it normal to just leave a dog inside like that all day? I've never owned a dog so I don't know!

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HunkyPunk · 13/08/2021 22:00

I messaged asking if they were in yet and they responded "no, is the dog crying bothering you?" I said no of course not

Step one is to be honest with them! You are bothered by it. You need to tell them you find it upsetting. It might make them recall what they said about getting a dog walker.

2021V2 · 13/08/2021 22:02

Just say I love your dog and he’s great but he has been whimpering and getting anxious waiting later on - have you had any luck with the dog walkers

C0ncerned0 · 13/08/2021 22:03

I guess I could say that.. I'm guessing he's well fed and hydrated and has good access to somewhere to do his dog business.. I guess he's probably just lonely and wants to go for a walk. The whimpering makes me so sad for him.

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Itiswhatitis21 · 13/08/2021 22:05

Please do correct me if im wrong, but if you are at work all day every day - how do you know no one is going in while you are at work?
If ive read it wrong i do apologise

GrumpyMiddleAgedWoman · 13/08/2021 22:05

It's not fair to leave a dog alone all day, every day. Dogs are pack animals and need companionship. But it's not against the law.

Have a chat with them and prompt them to organise a dog-walker.

itsnotmeitsu · 13/08/2021 22:06

There is no way any dog should be left alone in a house for that amount of time, with no access to the outside. In those circumstances you don't have a dog, or you have someone who has access to let the dog out; top up water, etc.

User909537 · 13/08/2021 22:09

The neighbours behind me leave their elderly dog in the garden when they go out.
Only since they've had a baby.

She is so upset. Can be up to 6 hours and even in that heatwave.
I spoke to the people next door to them about it and they have approached them and they apparently said yes she has been clingy since lockdown.
But before lockdown they didnt lock her outside when they went out. It is definitely since they've had their baby but they're strange people anyway.
Glad I'm not actually right next door as it must be so loud for those closer.
I feel so sorry for her.
I can see her out of my DC bedroom window and she just cries, barks and paces back and forth.

C0ncerned0 · 13/08/2021 22:13

@Itiswhatitis21

Please do correct me if im wrong, but if you are at work all day every day - how do you know no one is going in while you are at work? If ive read it wrong i do apologise
Because I had a week of annual leave a short while ago and was at home and saw and heard nobody and just heard a whimpering dog when I was at home. I couldn't commit to helping them out as I was in an out all the week, I also have children who I run around after when not working.. There was a day I was in for several hours and saw and heard nobody come. I can hear their door opening and them going into their house from my living room.. So that's how i know.
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C0ncerned0 · 13/08/2021 22:13

I guess I could just ask how they are getting on with finding a dog walker.. No harm in doing that.

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CatchThatCat · 13/08/2021 22:20

You could also say you’ve heard of Borrow My Doggy being a nice idea for dogs who need company as it links dogs with people can’t own their own? It never worked for me though as we offered to help several times and no one met us !

AlternativePerspective · 13/08/2021 22:23

Does she cry all day?

I went out and left my dog the other day and he didn’t know that DS was in the house, and a couple of minutes later DS rang me to say that the dog was crying. Sad

So when I went out again a couple of days later to take my other dog to the vet I put a sound activated recorder in the room, and when I switched it on I heard him crying. Sad and it did sound as if he was crying. Sad

But in the end we only had 1 minute and 33 seconds of his crying during the approximate 45 minutes I was out. But if you heard that next door you might well think that he’d been abandoned.

He’s a guide dog and is almost never left.

But my neighbour’s dog actually likes to be left, and when they go round to let her out at lunchtime she doesn’t even want to get up, same with my sister’s dog.

Dogs shouldn’t be left all day, but I think a lot more are than we realise.

I would just point out though that she’s been crying a lot, and perhaps they should think of getting a dog walker?

liveforsummer · 14/08/2021 09:52

It's not ideal, especially as the dog is crying so obviously upset but plenty people do it and nothing will be done if you report it (rspca etc). All you can do is point out the crying and ask about a walker. Hopefully speed them up knowing someone is keeping an eye.

thereisonlyoneofme · 14/08/2021 10:12

My next door neighbours are gone for 11 hours a day and their dog is left in alone. In the 3 years they have been there I have never seen the dog walked, and cant even exercise in the garden as its tiny. People like this should not have dogs.

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