DP in a strop

[nancybae]

Forgive the pettiness of this, I can’t decide if I’m being hormonal and snippy or if I actually had a valid point.

Im 29 weeks pregnant and was feeling a little grumpy and fed up today anyway. Just before my DP left for work, he randomly said “Make sure you always ring me and let me know if anything happened while I’m at work (pregnancy wise)” to which I replied of course I would, that goes without saying.
I then added (a little snarky I admit) that’s if you pick up the phone as you usually don’t when I ring you, especially if you’re on your PlayStation.
For some context, he plays call of duty which I’m fine with. However if I ever ring him when I’m out, he will never answer if he’s on his PlayStation. He will finish his game then ring me back. Usually this wouldn’t annoy me, but I’ve said so many times that I’m going to call him one of these days saying I’ve gone into labour or something has happened and it will really Piss me off if you don’t answer because you’re playing a game. Especially the further along I’m getting.

Anyway back to earlier today, I then also asked why he randomly said that to me as it seems to come from nowhere. I laughed and said you’re only looking for a reason to get out of work. He stormed out and left for work saying how un called for that was. I only said this as he’s always looking for reasons to not go into work lately, he’s really not enjoying it at the moment. Also the other day he joked and said can you ring me later with a pretend pregnancy emergency so I can leave work early. He was genuinely joking, but that’s why I said what i said today.

So, I’m fully aware how petty it is but I’m very hormonal and stubborn and will not back down and apologise unless I know I’m wrong lol. So. Please be honest and enlighten me… WIBU?

No you absolutely weren’t. He needs to grow the f up before he becomes a father.

No. I think you've got him totally sussed to wanting some time off work and he's in a strop because you called him out on it.

If he's not happy at work. Talk to him about what can he actually do about it? Talk to his line manager? Change his hours?

But the not answering calls because he's on his play station would really piss me off though. Is he planning on ignoring baby crying/nappy changes etc when baby arrives?

Agree with @DowntonCrabby. He really needs to grow up. And quickly.

My sons dad was the same. I remember him buying new game releases the month before our son was due, games that you can’t really finish. (Think fallout and fifa type games). I laughed at him and asked him when did he think he was going to find time to play games with a baby? He told me when baby slept ( ha ha HA).

He sold the games after baby was born. He did not have time. Time for ya partner to grow up.

Thanks all! Glad I WBU, it's hard to tell when im so hormonal!

@Carrotinsaladiswrong oh he won't be playing it as much once baby is here, we've already has this convo! Going to be a shock to his system I think 😂

It depends on how bad things are at work. If he's having real issues then you've made light of them instead of being supportive.

The bit that confuses me is why are you both so hung up on pregnancy emergencies or possible labour when you're only 29 weeks? I mean, I could see that being annoying from about 36 weeks, but it's a bit early.

So while I think he's being a complete twat to have thrown such a strop, I do also think you're being a bit precious. (although a DH who never answers the phone is insanely annoying, I agree - I have one myself).

You touched a sore spot, joking about him not wanting to go into work. That’s all.

Yes, he needs to pick up when you call. But honestly, a well-placed “Sorry I upset you, it was a joke but I know you’re stressed at work” goes a long way.

Is he planning to be deaf to his baby crying so he can finish his game? I'd be having a calm discussion/relationship check about expectations before your baby arrives

Aren’t you going to work too? What pregnancy emergency are you thinking might happen at 29 weeks, are you a high risk? You’ve ages to go.

My DH is a gamer too. I’m under no illusion that he’ll be able to play when we’ve got a tiny newborn (in a few weeks) but I don’t plan on asking him to ditch it forever! I still plan on watching my trashy tv sometimes.

@HoikingUpMyBigGirlPantss

Is he planning to be deaf to his baby crying so he can finish his game? I'd be having a calm discussion/relationship check about expectations before your baby arrives

Lol of course not. He's fully aware he won't have all this spare time to game when the baby arrives. We've had that discussion already.

@SmidgenofaPigeon

Aren’t you going to work too? What pregnancy emergency are you thinking might happen at 29 weeks, are you a high risk? You’ve ages to go.

My DH is a gamer too. I’m under no illusion that he’ll be able to play when we’ve got a tiny newborn (in a few weeks) but I don’t plan on asking him to ditch it forever! I still plan on watching my trashy tv sometimes.

I'm working from home and have been since the beginning of the pandemic. We're not worried or expecting any pregnancy related emergency, I'm aware I'm only 29 weeks. That's why I was surprised when he even brought it up. I've spoken to him since and we're fine, he apologised for over reacting and being grumpy. I had to get checked over a few days ago for reduced movement but he was with me at the time. I didn't feel him move much again last night night so I think now (looking back) that's what made him mention about letting him know if anything happens. Which of course I would anyway x

@SmidgenofaPigeon

Aren’t you going to work too? What pregnancy emergency are you thinking might happen at 29 weeks, are you a high risk? You’ve ages to go.

My DH is a gamer too. I’m under no illusion that he’ll be able to play when we’ve got a tiny newborn (in a few weeks) but I don’t plan on asking him to ditch it forever! I still plan on watching my trashy tv sometimes.

I also don't expect him to stop gaming completely, I actually enjoy him playing! The same as you, I get to enjoy my trash tv in peace 😂. But of course things are going to change and we will get used to a normal I'm sure. Congrats on your pregnancy, hope all goes well ☺️

Fair enough OP, glad you sorted it. Reduced movement can be stressful. Glad all ok. Thanks OP. I have one that goes quiet regularly, he is lulled to sleep by walking, climbing stairs, my pregnancy ball, the bus… drives me crazy

Oh it is, isn't it? But then I curse when I'm trying to sleep and he's doing somersaults haha. They're little sods aren't they, and they're not even born yet 😂. X

Absolutely

@nancybae

Oh it is, isn't it? But then I curse when I'm trying to sleep and he's doing somersaults haha. They're little sods aren't they, and they're not even born yet 😂. X

All the best op and hope all goes well with the littlen, although for context is it warzone on call of duty he plays ?

Wnbu at all!

@Hawkins001 yep that's the one! 😂

@Carrotinsaladiswrong

My sons dad was the same. I remember him buying new game releases the month before our son was due, games that you can’t really finish. (Think fallout and fifa type games). I laughed at him and asked him when did he think he was going to find time to play games with a baby? He told me when baby slept ( ha ha HA).

He sold the games after baby was born. He did not have time. Time for ya partner to grow up.

Sorry - derail but this made me laugh. I like computer games and bought myself one as I was about to go in mar leave with younger son as thought it might break up some monotony.

I’ve not played it yet.

My son is 3 and a half.

oh he won't be playing it as much once baby is here, we've already has this convo! Going to be a shock to his system I think

Hmmm. There's saying and there's doing. I hope he does stick to it.

@Feedingthebirds1

oh he won't be playing it as much once baby is here, we've already has this convo! Going to be a shock to his system I think

Hmmm. There's saying and there's doing. I hope he does stick to it.

He won't be, I can assure you 🤣