People who start threads and then don't bother to come back

[CarlaH]

I have stopped reading threads unless they are very new and don't yet have many responses if I see that the person who started it hasn't bothered to return.
I do read it if they then turn up.

Today I have opened a few threads which are pages long but no other input from the thread starter.

Do other people get fed up with people who don't return.

Sometimes things happen IRL. I started a thread a few years ago, my FiL suffered a stroke that day and I didn't get back to it.

Posted, realised it's a bit outing, changed username, then can't come back to the thread without outing the new username or faffing about with changing username back but don't want the thread deleting because the responses are useful.

You don't know what is happening in a person's life.

Could be anything. I post and respond when I can but with a child RL always comes first and there is generally something or other that is more urgent.

Well played OP 👏

@thevassal

I understand in AIBU etc where the poster may have read the responses but not feel able to respond/feel attacked etc. I do find it really rude where the poster asks for help/advice on a non-emotive issue (e.g. "I'm travelling to x, what are good recommendations to visit" or "anybody got good advice for school admissions panels" or whatever), people spend a lot of time giving good advice, and the OP can't even be bothered to come back and give a one word "thanks".

If they're not bright enough to use Google I wouldn't waste my time giving them recommendations.

@MoreAloneTime

I've often thought an interesting idea for a forum would be where the OP posts and there is only room for say 10 replies until the OP posts again. It would mean you could post and then go to the shops and not come back to 100+ pile on comments and the thread would only keep going if the OP kept participating.

That would be nice.

No threads constantly being bumped by ghoulish rubberneckers all posting "hope you're ok OP " over and over and over a-fucking-gain.

It is a bit weird to post and not come back IMO. MN 'Chat' does imply there will be a two way conversation doesn't it? And asking 'AIBU' then disappearing and not acknowledging any replies at all is a bit pointless. Join a Talk Forum with no intention of interacting with the talk?

It's annoying when others have been very helpful and there's not so much as a thank you. Manners and all that.

Where is the op?

@mineofuselessinformation

If I click in a thread that sounds interesting and has quite a few posts, the first thing I do is look to see how many posts are by OP. If there's only one, I don't bother to post. I get that some posters might just want to see what the reaction is, but I don't invest my energy unless they have posted again.

Yes that's how I behave really.

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

Where is the op?

LOL