AIBU to feel guilty about hiring Cleaning Service

[Samafe]

Dear All,

I work 3dpw, DS is 2y/o, pregnant with DD in my third trimester. I am now feeling a little bit tired and start struggling to keep up with house chores. We own a relatively big house with garden, and while the garden is my DH reign, I am taking care of most (if not all) cleaning activities.

I mentioned to my DH I need help from him for my last 2 months of pregnancy and probably for the first few months with DD, and he told me: no problem, I am not gonna help directly but we can hire a cleaning service.

I am probably crazy but I am not feeling totally comfortable about this decision.

Here the reasons:

1.  I feel guilty and lazy. Like, I work 3dpw, not even full time, I am now spending time on MN, maybe if I reorganize a little bit and try to be more efficient, I can actually do all by myself. Am I really that tired or am I just lazy? (maybe I need to see a therapist :D)
   

2.  Money: we can afford cleaning service right now, but cleaning service has for sure a cost, so the money we spend for the cleaner is less money that we can save or use for other things, what about our financial situation change and I will regret it?
   

3.  My SIL has a cleaning lady, and I HATE the way her daughter talks about this. When she visits, she says stuff like “Your cleaning lady is lazy because there are spider webs in that corner” “Why are you cleaning that – this should be done by the cleaning lady” “your laundry bin is full – why is the cleaning lady not doing laundry?” etc. It drives me mad and I don’t want to ever hear my DC speak like this.
   

My DH says I am crazy and I should basically stop being so hard on myself and hire help.

I wonder if maybe other moms ever felt this way….

No, I have never ever felt a shred of guilt hiring a cleaner.

I don’t enjoy cleaning, I’d rather spend my time with my child or relaxing and enjoying myself, and I can afford it. So why on earth would that leave me feeling guilty, when it’s providing work for someone else to boot?

Get the op.
I would welcome them in with open arms 😂
Take the stress off yourself op, it'll be worth it

1) I feel guilty and lazy. Like, I work 3dpw, not even full time, I am now spending time on MN, maybe if I reorganize a little bit and try to be more efficient, I can actually do all by myself. Am I really that tired or am I just lazy? (maybe I need to see a therapist :D)

Pregnancy affects everyone differently, with DS2 I basically spent 5 months in bed (hyperemesis, on tablets).

Don't feel guilty at all about getting extra help.