AIBU for going out?

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A bit of backstory - I have a hobby that I have done for years. There is a local community group that focuses on that hobby and I have gone to this group one evening a week (it’s a couple of hours) for the past three/four years. I am good friends with the other members.

About a two years ago, our local pub started an event night that clashed with the group, but that we all wanted to go to. We moved the group to another night, so (lockdowns not withstanding) I regularly go out two nights a week for a couple hours. DH is fine with this, and has open invitation to the social event but says it’s not his thing (DC are old enough to be on their own for a few hours)

This weekend there is a big event for our group - for example if it were a table tennis club then we’d have a big tournament this weekend. It is the biggest event we have ever done; and probably ever will. Because of this, I have been out every night since last Saturday at practice.

Last night was the social event and DH got in a grump about me going to it because “it feels like I don’t want to be around him”. We had an argument but I still ended up going.

DH was at work early this morn, and was in bed when I got in so I’ve not spoken to him since the argument.

Who is being unreasonable?

Not you, he's being an arse

If it's a one off, twice a year type thing, then he's out of order and needs his own hobby. As your children get older it's good to have links with community groups etc, if you don't have shared hobbies, or you become stagnate as a couple anyway.

@Ponoka7 yes - the group does two events a year, one in summer and one around Xmas.

We don’t normally practice every day the week before; but this time it’s much bigger. Imagine for instance an Am Dram group that normally plays at the village hall getting a one off chance to play at a nearby big, professional theatre.

Unless your a child and he's your parent, YANBU.

It's just one of those weeks, they happen sometimes. Ask him what he would like to do with you and commit to spending that 'date time' with him. If he's just sulking because you're not sitting in the house with him then I think he needs to get over it. If this was going on for weeks or months I can see that he might start to feel you're like shops passing but if it's just a busy week then I'm sure he will still remember what you look like tomorrow.

He just needs reassuring.
Give the man a sexy fondle and a snog. job done.
Go to your thing.

@Alonelonelyloner sexy fondle and a song 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Snog even

Carry on OP, he's not a child (although he's acting like one). I can't believe two thirds of voters think you're unreasonable, some peop!e like to be joined at the hip. (Is it a choir?)