To ask you how to get over the one that got away

[justme2021]

I know this is not AIBU but how to get over the one who got away scenario.
So back in my late teens I was with this lovely guy but we both wanted different things, I wanted to travel and he was more work driven so we decided to end things, very friendly no fall outs or Anything like that, was just had different ideas on how the next five years looked. So fast forward to a year ago we got back in touch very friendly just how how have you been over the past 8 years etc just completely platonic, but I have not stopped thinking of him since, he deleted his Facebook as he never used it so lost touch for a while, so skip to now I have seen he's recently gotten engaged, while I am happy for him I'm feeling a bit sad about it, am not sure if it's just the what ifs im sad about or what but I can't stop thinking about it..
can any body help or advise on how you moved on
Thankyou

I think just try to focus on other things, you will one day meet someone who you care about and have a connection with as much as if not more as him. You'll look back to now and think "ah so that's why we didn't work out, so I could meet this person".
I get what you mean though, I dated a guy on and off as a teenager and I just had such low self esteem it ruined the relationship as he thought I wasn't that keen on him and not taking things seriously. Truth is I absolutely adored him and my extreme lack of confidence in myself made it so hard to show how I really felt. When he ended things he started seeing someone else, he called things off with her and we started getting friendly again but once again I blew it and that was the last straw for him. He ended up getting back with the other person and they've been together over a decade and have a child together. I do still think about it him now sometimes (although we have no contact) and how life could've been, but I also remember if I had ended up with him I wouldn't have my children so I'm grateful we didn't work out and I know I'll meet "the one" one day.

Oh god. This is me. I met mine at 21 and was besotted. I was too insecure and inexperienced too tell him how I felt so nothing ever happened.
He got married and moved away but he's still in my circle of friends and recently my head has been full of 'what if'. If it had happened just a few years later I probably would have jumped on him but at the time...

Following with interest!

He wasn’t ‘the one’ and he didn’t get away, you wanted different things and those things were your priorities at the time. I suspect your daydreaming is a distraction to fill a current void.