AIBU to be pissed off with my brother?

[Iamacatslave]

Our 79 year old mother was admitted into hospital on Tuesday, and is now being treated for clinical Covid. She has vascular dementia and has lived in a nursing home for 2 years. I texted my brother on the day she was admitted to tell him what was going on, he did reply but since then nothing.
So my question is…
Am I allowed to be increasingly pissed off with him?

@HandforthParishCouncilClerk

Perhaps he resents being sent off to boarding school aged 11.

@Iamacatslave

For background… My brother has little or no relationship with our mother. He speaks to her about twice a year (birthday and Christmas,) he also visits her twice a year in her nursing home.

I stupidly assumed he would show some concern about our mother.

Thanks again for all your replies.

That's your answer then unfortunately. He doesn't really have a relationship with her. He might assume to show concern now would seem fake given he hasn't in the past.

And being pissed off is judging him.

However, don't feel obliged to keep him updated if he isn't asking. You have enough on your plate. Take care of yourself.

Perhaps he has mixed feelings? He has no obligation to text you with any enquiries. There must be a reason why he is low contact with his own mother.

@FinallyDecided

Apologises for my “big drip feed.”

[quote Iamacatslave]@HandforthParishCouncilClerk

Perhaps he resents being sent off to boarding school aged 11.[/quote]
I would think so. Clearly something damaged his relationship with your mother.

Did you get sent to boarding school?

Perhaps try to see things a bit more from his point of view, as it might actually help you feel a bit less resentful

Have you ever asked him if he wants to be told when she is ill?

I go through the motions of 'caring' for my mother but the bald and unpleasant truth is I don't give a damn nor does my DSis. Long long backstory.

I have this with my sister, she does virtually nothing for our mother,so its not always men getting out of things. I reached a point where I decided not to even ask her for help anymore. Its not worth the energy!

I have this with my brother, never bothers with our DM even though she's been rather poorly lately, but wants to know if he's in the will, god he loves money, greedy twat.

@Holly60

Yes. I also went to boarding school. I will try to see it from his point of view.