AIBU

[kay06072021]

my partner will wake up with our 6 week old when he gets a bit fussy during the night, and for the past week i’ve been waking up in the early hours or the morning to find him in our bed. this morning his face was half under the cover. i’ve repeatedly told him about how dangerous this is, especially if i’m not aware he’s there, but he just continues to do it. I got really angry this morning when i turned over to see his face half under the cover and went into a full blown panic because i was worried he might not be breathing.

so i’ve told him he’s not allowed to sleep in our room with me and the baby until he learns to stop it, because i will never forgive him and he will never forgive himself if something were to happen. Am i being unreasonable? i don’t think so.

no matter what the rights and wrongs are about cosleeping, no parent should be doing anything that causes such distress to the other parent

Why don't you get a co sleeper

Didn't you post about your Mil doing the exact same thing?

@fleurbelle yes! within the same week!!😩😩

Did the baby end up in your room, or is he trying to settle him in his own room? How heavy a sleeper is your partner? Has he asked advice from his Mum and she's told him to co-sleep? Safe co-sleeping can be a way to ensure everyone gets enough sleep. It's about finding a safe way to co-sleep, or you take over of a night and see if your partner is looking for a shortcut and see if your baby will settle back down in his own sleeping space.

@54321nought
"no matter what the rights and wrongs are about cosleeping, no parent should be doing anything that causes such distress to the other parent"
A compromise should try to be found, but sometimes it can't be and when you have the baby you get to decide.

You're being really weird. Why two posts about the same thing?