Nasty/evil mouth?

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So… my partner. He has form of saying the most horrific and upsetting things to me in the heat of an argument. The arguments are always started because he is tired/stressed.

I have forgiven this for many many years and always think to myself he doesn’t mean it, he will apologise which he always does.

I have finally walked away from this. Well I say walked away, I just agreed with him on this occasion that he walked out on mine and my children’s lives.

Posting in Aibu for traffic. I need support, suppose someone to tell me I have done the right thing breaking up our family home

You have. 💐

You most definitely have done the right thing. Your children will thank you for this.

Yes you’ve done the right thing
It’s not ok and it’s never been ok for him to be horrible to you

You didn’t break up the family. He did with his vile behaviour.
Enjoy your peace.

Many, many people manage their tiredness and stress without being nasty to their partners.

Congratulations on your new life!

You’re doing the right thing by protecting your family.

We all get tired and stressed. It’s a choice to be verbally abusive to people you’re supposed to love and cherish. A choice.

I think there are some people who have absolutely no idea the damage they can do with words. My sister is one of these people. She says terrible things and never apologises.

People like that are thoroughly toxic. You've done the right thing.

Never let anyone speak to you like that again.

Thank you all, I’m shocked as I really did think there would be mixed answers!

The things he says in anger are truly horrific and still go round my head years later. I can hear them in my head spoken in his voice, they honestly haunt me.

How long till he does this to the children?

He swears he never would. So if he can control it with them why not me?

That is why I decided to let him leave, and make sure he stayed away.

Good move, OP! You really have done the right thing.

DH and I can have a stupendious row every now and then, even in the heat of the moment we both know that there is an invisible line that should never be crossed, yeah we can shout, get angry, be an arsehole, but deep down we know we love each other dearly.

OP your DH has just the same ability to control himself as everyone else, he knows how to hurt you and does it deliberitly, how nasty, no one does that to someone they truly love and respect.

You've done the right thing. It's a bad example to the kids as they could end up speaking to a partner like that or allowing themselves to be spoken to like that. By walking away You've shown them it's unacceptable

Thank you, it is the kids that I am worried about and I can’t bare the thought of them being like this in future and thinking it is ok.

He has always directed the hurt and nastiness at me, but has recently said horrible things about one of the children and that’s what made me pop. My mind changed in an instant.

Looking back I can’t believe I have had over 5 years, of what I suppose is verbal abuse

Well done for making the move, you’ve absolutely done the right thing. 💐