Wedding

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My friends daughter is getting married at Christmas. I really feel for them all as it has been postponed three times. I hope with all my heart it goes ahead. This daughter I will call Maxine is her only child (single mum) when I see her all the mum talks about is the wedding and the cost, the mum (my friend) and her parents are playing for her it, she is NC with the dad. How I have never been to such a beautiful wedding or been such a beautiful gown was the latest statement etc.
My two sons are married to two lovely ladies. They had lovely weddings as well. My DIL kindly involved me so it is not sour grapes on my behalf. I just feel fed up with the whole thing aibu x

“Alright Joan, I’m sure you’re excited but that’s enough about the wedding”

“I’m sure you’ll work it out”

“I’m sure they’ll work it out”

“Joan, you’re doing it again…”

Its a massive event in her life, its probably at the stage where its very all consuming for her and is at the forefront of her mind. She sounds very excited.

What does she do if you try to steer the conversation elsewhere?

Are you just bored of hearing about the wedding or are you annoyed because you think she’s insinuating it will be a better wedding than your son’s weddings?

Either way, yabu - people have postponed weddings loads, they just want something to be excited about!

Change the subject if you’re bored of hearing it.

Maybe remind her that a wedding is about the vows and commitment not the whole big day or money spent.

After postponing multiple times, and with it being her only child, the wedding must be all-consuming for your friend. Just indulge her, let her suck up the attention until afterwards, it's only a few more months.

Just be kind. It’s not for long.

I know this feeling. My friend is exactly the same.

I was in a bad way a few weeks ago. I tried to talk to her about it. I received a three word perfunctory response and then a rant about her wedding.

I didn't respond.

@LawnFever if I am honest with myself I do think she is implying that my sons
& dils wedding was second best. Both my dils looked beautiful and happy which is so important
I hope I am a nice friend as I have appeared interested for the past three years but am starting to loose patience.

I sympathise! One of my best friends is totally wound up in obsessing about her daughter’s wedding. It has been postponed once. I’m very interested but there is a limit; I would like to talk about other things as well.
Worse are the friends who only talk about grandchildren. Again, I show interest and ask about them but some can only talk about them, nothing else. I try to move the conversation on but to no avail. It’s boring and Im starting to avoid those friends.

@AnonymousCheerleader there does only seem to be one subject. Roll on Christmas x 🤶

Well of course she thinks her daughters wedding is more special (to her!) than your children’s weddings, that’s normal.

@Pottedpalm I have grandchildren who I love very much but I am not one of those people! x

@AnonymousCheerleader

I know this feeling. My friend is exactly the same.

I was in a bad way a few weeks ago. I tried to talk to her about it. I received a three word perfunctory response and then a rant about her wedding.

I didn't respond.

Yep! After two hours of photos on the ipad with one friend, I made a comment about Something else, to be told ‘that’s boring! I would rather talk about weddings!’😏