Hello. I would be very grateful if you could advise. Mother lives on her own and is in good health. She is in her early 70's, Gets out and about and has a good network of neighbours. I live a few hours away and rest of family live abroad and even further away than me. So she is really on her own. I try to visit once a week and I always call during the week. Long history of her being difficult and exhibiting more love to her friends and neighbours than to her kids and grandkids. Fast forward to more recently when you ring her she doesn't answer or she won't text or ring the next day to say she is ok or got your call. She makes no effort her side to visit - she is capable of driving to visit as exhibited by visiting friends even further away than me. I absolutely have no problem with her out and about (although she wouldn't tell you and gives you the impression she is inside all day) its great but what I find hard to accept is her lack of indifference with her family trying to keep an eye on her to make sure she is ok as we are all so far away. She has even told neighbours I don't visit, don't call etc and she is all on her own. How do I tell her once and for all, its not that difficult to respond to a call or text and let us know your ok. Oh that probably sounds so harsh. But I just want to know that I don't have to go driving 4 hours each way to see if she is ok because she doesn't answer her phone or acknowledge that her daughter may actually care she is ok. Hope all that makes sense? She is a classic narcissist too and that isn't helping and i know also I have to ignore a lot of her behaviour. But I do care that she is ok on her own. I have tryed everything to keep a positive relationship going, acknowledging she may be lonely, not want to be overpowered by me and my family etc etc but I just find her indifference so difficult lately. Maybe its my own
Thank you!