How can I stop being so rubbish and wishing I was someone else?

[AnnaFlabby]

I’m so sad and posting out of desperation that someone can offer something to make me feel better. Every time I try and achieve something I fail, I can’t do anything and I’m so fed up of being me.

I’m never considered for any promotion, I never get offered a job when I go for interview, not accepted if I apply for educational courses, not invited to places others are, you get the idea, the list is endless.

Latest thing I’m desperately trying to lose some weight I’ve been really good for 9 days keeping to under 1k calories. I’ve just binged bread and butter and whole pack of biscuits. I hate myself. I’m locked in a cycle and can’t ever find a way out.

Thing is there’s no deep underlying issues or eating disorder. I don’t have any major problems in my life, I don’t need counselling or to see a doctor. I’m just not an achiever and I’m just crap at everything. I honestly don’t feel I have any skills and when I try and better myself I just fail miserably. I have no purpose other than to look after my family.

I so wish I could swap places with someone else. I really don’t want to be me anymore. Does anyone else wish they were someone else?

Stop using a scale and use how your clothes feel. My scales are rubbish and can say I have gained weight or lost weight depending where I am stood in the bathroom. Just trying on clothes shoes me that my healthy eating is going in the right direction. Sure eating a whole packet of biscuits isn't the best but your body obviously needed something so well done for caring for yourself.

How sad that you grew up feeling criticised and have internalised those negative comments - try to be kinder to yourself now.

I think a lot of parents criticise/compare in a misguided attempt to encourage the child to do better, but it can cause terrible self-esteem issues. It’s always the negative comments that stick

Have a look at some of the tips here:

www.nhs.uk/mental-health/self-help/tips-and-support/raise-low-self-esteem/

www.nhs.uk/mental-health/self-help/tips-and-support/mindfulness/

There are more links from each article.

I really hope you find a way to recognise and appreciate your positive qualities