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AIBU?

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COVID Isolation

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SiliconDioxide79 · 10/08/2021 21:45

Every time there is the possibility that our family needs to self isolate (3 times so far) my partner, a builder who works on his own on his own project gets anxious about work and says that he will isolate at work for the required period. Leaving me at home with 3 teenagers. He says he is being "pragmatic" and does not want to get behind on work. There is no terrible financial pressure: just pressure from himself. This makes me feel pretty low down his priority list and tbh pretty crap. He says that he thinks most women would not be bothered by this and would think it a sensible suggestion. Its the speed with which he suggests it that pisses me off. I am generally quite laid back but this has caused a lot of arguments over the last 15 months. AIBU?

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Undersnatch · 10/08/2021 21:48

I don’t understand how he can isolate at work? Just to be away from you and kids as potential transmitters? I wouldn’t be fond of this suggestion either.

LibrariesGiveUsPower45321 · 10/08/2021 21:49

How on Earth does that even work? A risk that your family might have to self isolate - I’m assuming one of your kids coming down with temp or whatever, or whole family contact with covid - he should self isolate whatever. Staying at work doesn’t excuse him from self isolating.

SiliconDioxide79 · 10/08/2021 22:10

He is working on a building where he can eat sleep and not have to leave. So effectively if he stays there rather than returning home he could isolate and not come into contact with anyone. friends/family/supermarket vans can drop off food just as they could for us at home. He wouldn't be breaking the rules and would not lose 2 weeks work. However I think that he is also not being particularly supportive of his family!

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idontlikealdi · 10/08/2021 22:23

Theee teenagers is a different scenario to three toddlers- presumably he wants to keep the project going, keep earning, and be able to finish on time and move to the next project?

AlmostSummer21 · 10/08/2021 22:27

I can
Understand why it upsets you, but it is practical. He might as well be getting on with the project than sitting around at home doing Jack shit, but it does seem to leave you eith the kids and the house, while he just looks after himself.

OUCH - that was the fence digging into the back of my legs!'

SiliconDioxide79 · 10/08/2021 22:39

Haha @AlmostSummer21 yes it is easy to see why he wants to do it. I'm kind of on the fence a bit myself. But also annoyed with him! If he had not leapt to it I may have been up for suggesting it myself y'know??

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SiliconDioxide79 · 10/08/2021 22:40

Hmmm...yes toddlers are a huge amount more work...but teenagers are a massive pain in the ass and rude quite often. Bless them.

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SiliconDioxide79 · 10/08/2021 22:46

@LibrariesGiveUsPower45321 yes I mean when any of us have had symptoms and have had to isolate/get a PCR yes. He is working completely alone so yes he can do it.

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AlmostSummer21 · 11/08/2021 00:05

@SiliconDioxide79

Haha *@AlmostSummer21* yes it is easy to see why he wants to do it. I'm kind of on the fence a bit myself. But also annoyed with him! If he had not leapt to it I may have been up for suggesting it myself y'know??
Yes, I totally understand where you're coming from. It would be nice if he wanted to stay home with you & the teens. He seems a little too eager to isolate away from you all!

Teens can require more patience than toddlers and you can't just pick them
Up or put them to bed at 7:30.

maybe next time he can isolate with the kids and you can isolate at a spa!!

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