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Nightmare Night Shift Neighbour

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adviceneeded2188 · 10/08/2021 14:47

We live in a small row of terraced houses in a cul-de-sac, neighbour to left is end of the row. He is a night-time taxi driver, leaves the house at 2pm and comes back at 2am. Every night he wakes me up parallel parking outside the house but I deal with it - he lived here before us and living in a terrace you have to be realistic about noise. Right?!

So herein lies my issue. I sell a lot online and I also work full-time, so I have a courier come to the house to collect my parcels rather than drop off, as I don't have time. Courier turns up this morning at 11.30am. I hear a bit of to-ing and fro-ing outside. Open the door and my taxi driver neighbour is saying in fairly defensive terms 'You're too noisy mate. Everyday the beep on that machine wakes me up, and your voice is too loud'. I ask what the problem is, and I'm told the same thing. I say 'But the problem is, it's daytime?!' and I'm told in no uncertain terms that he wants the courier to be quiet and that he's within his rights to ask - then shuts the window.

Now. Who is in the wrong here?! I feel as though the beeping on a Hermes couriers machine at 11:30 in the morning is really not too much of an annoyance, is it?!

I would also add - this neighbour can be extremely difficult. When I was pregnant about 2 years go he would have loud parties, which we could hear in great detail through our paper thin walls. I got so stressed I ended up stayed at my parents house for 2 weeks and my boyfriend almost had to threaten him with loud noise in the day, when we had previously been quiet thoughtful towards him as we knew he worked at night.

He also once attempted some DIY and knocked a hole through the wall into our outside cupboard (weird Victorian house quirk) and actually asked us to pay for the damage as 'the damage would have happened anyway'.

I just feel like he is a nightmare and I want to up sticks and move ASAP - looking for some reassurance that's not too extreme of a reaction?! My partner seems content to put up with it!

OP posts:
HalzTangz · 10/08/2021 17:49

@ChikiTIKI

He probably woke up because it was 9.5 hours after he got home and so he didn't need any more sleep....
Unlikely. Do you go to sleep the minute you get home from work. I bet the guy doesn't either. It's probably more likely 5ish before he goes to sleep
Chloemol · 10/08/2021 18:22

Just carry on as you are. When he complains again tell him he wakes you up every night but you dint moan about it

EmeraldShamrock · 10/08/2021 18:28

Clearly both neighbours are light sleepers and need earplugs. I'd never wake up from the noise of a car parking. As a night worker the birds are the worst when trying to drop off, after I'm gone I'm gone.

user1471457751 · 10/08/2021 21:01

He sounds like a dick but I think other posters are being disingenuous saying he's had loads of sleep. Who actually goes straight to bed when they come in from work? I know I don't. I expect most people are up for at least 3hours afterwards.

pinkyredrose · 10/08/2021 21:05

Have you ever told him he wakes you up every night?

Frlrlrubert · 10/08/2021 21:31

2am is not a night shift. A late shift yeah but not a night shift.

Most shift workers don't shift their entire day as if they were working normal hours.
So you wouldn't work til 2am and stay up all night to have an 'evening' afterwards.

My dad worked shifts and if he finished at 6am he was in bed by 7am, he'd sleep til lunch, and then have a cat-nap and get up for his shift. If I finished at 2am I'd be asleep by 3:30 at the latest counting winding down a bit, so 8 hours before your Hermes pick up, that's plenty of kip.

Anyway, if normal noise is waking him that's his issue to sort. I used to live next door to a nightclub that was open until 4am and I'd have to be up at 6am for work. I moved! But I lived with it until I could. The random beeping of the crossing in the night at the next place was actually more annoying than the club as it was intermittent.

KarmaStar · 10/08/2021 21:34

He's being a pita.
Yanbu at all.

iheartredsquirrels · 10/08/2021 21:51

According to gov web site, between 11pm - 6am is regarded as nightwork if one works at least three hours between these hours.
He does sound a pain though.

beigebrownblue · 10/08/2021 22:05

I feel people have to be more tolerant of deliveries. Lots of people have had to or chosen to work from home in pandemic.

Nothing wrong with 11.3o a.m.

BudrosBudrosGalli · 10/08/2021 22:22

He's pretty lucky that you're his neighbor. If he started being arsey with me, I'd be playing music at that time of the day...

Ritasueandbobtoo9 · 10/08/2021 22:29

I don’t know why you gave him money when he was in breach of the Party Wall Act www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/1996/40/contents

AlmostSummer21 · 11/08/2021 23:51

@EmeraldShamrock

Clearly both neighbours are light sleepers and need earplugs. I'd never wake up from the noise of a car parking. As a night worker the birds are the worst when trying to drop off, after I'm gone I'm gone.
Lucky you!! We don't all sleep that well
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