To not want to get rid of clothes and buy larger ones

[Fedup12423]

My youngest is 3 now and I’ve been telling myself that I’ll get back into my pre pregnancy clothes but I still haven’t. I feel like such a loser.

I managed to get back to prepregnancy weight quite easily and quickly when he was a matter of months as I had motivation and we were going abroad, but I put on 1.5 stones over the first lockdown due to stress a d being indoors with all the kids. I then started my new job which is a joke and full of toxic and quite rude and nasty people so I started comfort eating and put on around another 1.5 stones. I’m so angry there’s one right nasty woman who kept asking me if I was pregnant as my “belly is huge” rather than her comment motivate me to lose weight I started eating more! So I’m sat here now nearly 3 stones heavier snd still trying to fit into my old clothes. Wardrobe is full of stuff I can’t fit into but I can’t get myself to put them away. I can’t buy new clothes as I keep thinking I will lose the weight. I feel so disgusting and fat.

@KarenofSparta

I wouldn't fork out if you know you're not planning to stay that size. Sainsbury's & Tesco's have some decent office-type wear. It might fall apart in the wash after a few months but by that time won't matter 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Bit of a drift but have you had experience of supermarket clothes falling apart in the wash?

Pretty much everything I've had from Tesco/Asda etc. have washed beautifully and lasted absolutely years. I'm still wearing a pair of £10 office trousers from Tesco from over a decade ago, they look like new! Just retired my Primark coat from 2012 which looked great until a few months ago when the stitching finally started to come apart. But I wore it daily throughout the year.

Personally I think it's a myth these days that cheaper clothes don't last as long. Certainly hasn't been my experience anyway.

OP, definitely buy a few bits that you feel good in now, but don't go nuts. If you're planning to lose weight starting soon then you'll be in smaller clothes within a few months and won't end up using the bigger sizes you've bought. You have to wear something!

I’ve put on loads of weight since the start of the pandemic too. Even though I took up running which I’ve never done before! Just general lack of moving around, plus proximity to kitchen (now got builders in so limited as to where I can sit!).

I love the idea of packing away the nice but small stuff - just the best things - so they don’t torment me. I’m going to do that!

Buy yourself some clothes you'll feel much better in a well fitted outfit.
Don't lose hope, pack away the small bits and set a reminder for 6 month's time in your phone.
Put the diet out of your head for 6 months.
The pressure will ease.

V sorry you’re having a rough time. Been in v similar situation.

Suggest seeking to do things to benefit your health and wellbeing.

Clothes being too small won’t help you feel better, so agree with PPs about getting some ones, within your budget, in the correct size, for now. And packing away stuff that’s too small.

Suggest a shopping trip somewhere with changing rooms open, otherwise 80% of stuff will likely have to be returned which is a pain timewise.

I don't throw away clothes because they are too small. I'm a bit of a yo-yo dieter so I fit into them periodically and:

a. I don't really care about fashion
b. If you wait long enough things usually come back into fashion

What I'd do in your situation is have a wardrobe sort out. If it's too small and you don't love it (e.g. it's just a bog standard basic item) get rid of it to charity. If it's an item you'd love to wear again, keep it.

Meanwhile, get yourself some things in your current size - don't spend a fortune - charity shops or supermarket for bargains.

Bear in mind that it's quite easy to take dresses and skirts in, if you want to wear them after you've lost weight - also some things can be worn oversized such as shirts/cardigans.

Finally, chose a too-small item to use as motivation for weight loss when you begin your healthy eating plan - it's really motivating to try something on once a week and see it get closer and closer to fitting - then that magic moment when the zip slides up like a dream!

I still buy my clothes telling myself I will take them to a seamstress 'when' I lose weight. It will happen one day, and when it does, boom! Yeah, one day.

Buy some clothes that make you look and feel lovely. Pack away your old stuff in those vacuum bags if you must (though you may well find that if you slim back down you want to treat yourself to some new styles anyway). I'm a bit older than you and have piled on a few pounds with the menopause coupled with lockdown which left me feeling really fed up. I've treated myself to some new summer dresses in a completely different style to my old ones, chucked out a lot of old stuff so I don't have to wade through it when I open the wardrobe, had my hair cut and now feel fabulous again and therefore - and this is also key - far more motivated to watch what I eat, get more exercise (I've got a walking app on my phone which I have found is a huge incentive to walk more and get a few steps in).

@LillianGish that’s another good idea about the potential for taking things to a seamstress!

💐🌈You are NOT disgusting and fat! For a start.
You've outlined issues which have brought about weight gain as it has for thousands of people.
Look in the mirror every single day and firmly believing your words say
I am beautiful,I am intelligent my body has produced three wonderful children,I am enough.anyone who doesn't like what they see can fcuk off.their ignorant opinions mean nothing to me.
Love yourself,just say,ok,I'll eat mindfully!so don't slip anything in your mouth without being conscious of the fat,vitamins,sugar content,think if you are hungry before eating,chew slowly,don't be distracted,concentrate on what you are doing/eating.stop when full and drink lots of water.
The natural way of losing weight will suit you.by Autumn you will be slimmer and happier.
Good luck.

I’m so angry there’s one right nasty woman who kept asking me if I was pregnant as my “belly is huge”
I'm so sorry you have to put up with this shit, I suggest that if she says it again, say 'No, I'm just fat'. Look at her stomach for a moment then say 'What about you then?'.

You really do deserve some clothes that fit though. You will look better in them, meaning you might feel a little better too.

Ugh, this was me. I got pregnant in the first lockdown and that combined with just not really moving and the daily trip to the supermarket being my ‘treat’ meant I gained a lot.

By November I was living in supermarket leggings, tops and jumpers in size 18-20. I felt gross! I’m now back in my ore pregnancy clothes, although my jeans are very tight and I’ve bought a pair in the next size.