Restricting WiFi at night for teen

[MrsPatrickDempsey]

Opinions please

15 yr DS wants unrestricted WiFi access in school holidays, specifically at nighttime. Currently turns off at midnight but this is embarrassing apparently.

What are your rules?
Yabu - no restrictions
Yanbu -turn it off at night

We take 14yo DSs Xbox controllers when we go to bed at about 10.30/11. His phone is set to go off at 11/11.30 during term time and a bit later in the holidays. We also take the lounge TV controller.
That probably seems a bit uptight reading this thread but I have a friend whose 13yo goes up to bed lights out at 9pm

Ours are 12 and 14, phones live downstairs at night after bedtime (9.30/10ish in term time, 10.30/11 in holidays) and they switch their laptops off. We are pretty relaxed about screen time in the day (unless we are eating or doing something as a family) so they get hours a day. But they need sleep!

I highly recommend app Circle, my oldest 17 yo used to bypass parental settings on his iPhone for years, I set let’s say 5 hrs daily use but he managed somehow to end like with 10 hrs. Now all the gadgets at home for 3 kids are easily controlled

I have never had any wifi controls or restrictions for my dc.

They have always been allowed to self regulate.

They are 18 and 22 now and are good functioning adults.

In the summer if they don't have anything else to do the next morning I let them have it and then let them sleep in, teenagers have different body clocks, if you want him off turn it off in the afternoon.

I restrict my dcs too. There’s no conflict as they know why and agree. They’ve never been good at self regulating so I’m hoping forming good habits will help instead.

I didn’t restrict my DCs Wi-fi once they were older teens but I think I should have done. I think 12 during the week and 02:00 on Friday and sat sounds more than generous. It would depend on behaviour etc. My kids school was 5 mins away so they didn’t have to get up early.

WiFi never turned off here but all our phones go off when we each go to bed. And DC (similar ages) always go to bed by 11 (usually earlier) unless a particular reason like an occasional event that finishes very late. That’s basically set bed times / screen time when they were younger morphing into self regulation. DD does say that when she turns her phone on in morning there’s sometimes hundreds of messages but in a “why on earth are they up so late regularly” way not “I’m missing out”.

So encouraging self regulation is better in my view but if he’s incapable of that then WiFi off at midnight seems very reasonable.

Midnight is DS 15 switch off wifi time for holidays and weekends, on school nights it's 10pm.
Midnight is more than late enough for him to be up gaming. He's more likely to keep going if wifi is still on. Uni is time enough to learn that sort of self regulation, whilst he's still in full time school and under our roof he needs to keep to a roughly normal daytime routine.
I thought midnight was pretty generous tbh.