Hey, first time posting here but wanted to get your opinion on an issue that has been ongoing for years and now I feel is starting to overflow in to my children.
So myself and my partner have been together for 11 years, my mother in law didn't like me at the start of our relationship, I was not a great kid at school and she happened to be my headteacher, so not the best first impression! Any way, early on in the relationship I noticed me mother in law excluded me from things, small at first, when she use to ask if my SO wanted a drink she didn't ask me, the same with her opinion on things. I initially thought she didn't like me and after speaking to my SO she had a chat with my MI and noted it was just because it has always just been them, therefore she never thought to ask. Over the years this kind of thing improved, only a handful of time I really noticed she would ask or comment on something and not include me and I would have to say "I'll have one too" or "can I see too?". In the past few years, since my oldest has started speaking and spending time with my MI that I've noticed the excluding happening again. It would be things like"what does mummy think?" When my oldest would ask for something or "show mummy this", "give this to mummy". I didn't really see it as a problem until today. My oldest and my MI went away on holiday and came back today and I immediately noticed it happening again; the first thing MI said was "show mummy what you got", it was a rock in the shape of a heart, fair enough, he likely found it and thought to give it to his mummy. Then, sat on the sofa, she says "here show mummy the photos we took" and "what does mummy think of those?" And my child is following this narrative. Maybe I'm being too sensitive to it and I should pipe up and involve myself, it seems easier to do so after the fact. Am I being unreasonable for commenting on it and am I being over zealous?