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Avoiding hemorrage

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winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 16:16

Ok so this is hard for me to say. I had a abortion 4 years ago and I bled quite a bit, I was about 8 weeks. I didn't have to have any surgery but it was close. If I have a child will this mean I will hemorage? Can I try and avoid this at all? I'm so scared but really want to have children so I'm worried about blood loss

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Notapheasantplucker · 09/08/2021 16:21

Is this a fact ? I've never heard that before, but I imagine quite a number of women have had an abortion before they've had a child and not had complications like that?

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winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 16:22

What do you mean sorry? @Notapheasantplucker

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Notapheasantplucker · 09/08/2021 16:27

Who has told you that you're more likely to hemorrhage during birth because you had an abortion? Is that a scientific fact? I've never heard that before, that's all.
But I think quite a lot of women will have had abortions before and not suffered a hemorrhage giving birth. I don't think you should worry.

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winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 16:29

No it's not a fact, I don't know which is why im asking. Because I bled a lot during the abortion, will that mean I will bleed a lot during labour? It wasn't a hemorrage but I worry that I was close to having one

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Knittingupastorm · 09/08/2021 16:29

@Notapheasantplucker OP’s concern is due to heavy bleeding she had during the abortion, not just that she had an abortion.

Notapheasantplucker · 09/08/2021 16:34

Jesus, just trying to help. I've obviously not understood the question.

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winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 16:35

Sorry I found it hard to word it to make sense

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2bazookas · 09/08/2021 16:45

An abortion at 8 weeks is barely more than a heavy period. We all bleed in every period. It's got absolutely no effect on pregnancy.

iolaus · 09/08/2021 16:46

A haemorrage during an early termination or miscarriage doesn't increase your risk of haemorraging following childbirth

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winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 16:49

@iolaus how do you know this

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Dozer · 09/08/2021 16:52

Did a medical professional advise that you were ‘close’ to needing medical intervention due to blood loss, or was that your own fear?

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 09/08/2021 16:53

Hi OP

I'm not sure this is the best place for this, if you're worried I think you really need to speak to a consultant about it, its quite a specific question and I imagine there are a few factors that influence the answer.

Dozer · 09/08/2021 16:53

MNetters aren’t qualified: you could look at a reputable source of health info, eg Royal College of Obstetrics and Gynaecology patient info or NHS.

Dozer · 09/08/2021 16:53

Or ask your GP

DrinkFeckArseBrick · 09/08/2021 16:55

But like a lot of things, if something happens in one pregnancy it does increase the chances in future pregnancy. A quick google search found a study that shows if you have one postpartum haemorrhage then you are more likely (not certain) to have another in the future

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winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 16:55

@Dozer basically I was bleeding a lot, and called the nurse in. She said she would give me something to try and calm the bleeding a bit. I was having a panic attack because I found the entire experience very upsetting. I kept asking her "what will happen if it doesn't stop" she looked at me with the most rude and judgmental look like I'm an idiot. I was just scared and needed reassurance. She said "we will get a surgeon in if it carries on" and then left. I then suffering with very heavy bleeding after, and blood clots the size of a large coin or golf ball sometimes

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winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 16:56

I was sent home an hour later, terrified.

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SnackSizeRaisin · 09/08/2021 16:57

It would depend on the reason for the previous bleed and whether that reason would still exist during labour. Whether it was it just bad luck or was it something specific to you. Really you should ask your doctor not random people online who can't even spell haemorrhage...

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winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 16:58

It was just a conversation I wondered if people had experienced this too. @SnackSizeRaisin

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Notapheasantplucker · 09/08/2021 16:59

The blood clots are normal though and are to be expected.

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winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 17:00

I think because no one went through what was normal and what wasn't I have scared myself to thinking it wasn't normal

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BakedTattie · 09/08/2021 17:00

I haemorrhaged with my first child (c-sec) but not with my second. I was told I was no more likely to by my consultant.

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winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 17:02

@BakedTattie thanks so much for telling me about your experience. Would you mind if I asked what happened with your first and second labour?

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Dozer · 09/08/2021 17:02

Sorry you experienced that, OP.

It seems unlikely they’d have discharged you if the doctors discharging you had concerns. presume the surgeon would’ve been asked to come in to check on you and advise, not that the nurse saying that meant you were ‘close to’ needing intervention.

I’ve had miscarriages at similar stage of pregnancy with a lot of pain and bleeding, had no problems with bleeding in subsequent pregnancy with my DC2.

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winterwalksandcoffee · 09/08/2021 17:03

@Dozer thanks so much for taking the time to help me

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