To expect hubby to pull his weight when he is not working?

[Plinkyplonk]

DD2 has been off school ill this week with a nasty cold. Mon and Tues I was off work so I could help/deal with her (she was happy if i got her a drink, didn't need/want much.

Yesterday DH was on his own with her and had promised to sort the laundry whilst I was at work. He did NOTHING saying that dd2 wouldn't let him WTF?????? she is nearly 6.

Last night she was up 3 times and I went to see to her twice, him once, she has been up since 5am and guess who is up with her? I have had a terrible nights sleep, i've got up with stomach pains and I'm working today. DD2 is back at school today and DH says he is going to do some shopping and with TRY to do some laundry. I am so bloody angry. Especially as he is still in bed

Just had a right row, he is languishing in bed watching tele, he told me to get out of the bedroom and take my badmood out on dd2 who woke me.

He cant seem to get it through his thick skull that some help when I'm working would be nice. When he is working he does nothing the day before he is due to work, on the days he is working and for the day after his last shift unless he has too. THEN he does nothing every Wednesday because he is too tired (hungover more like) after his pool match.

I've asked him to pack his bags but he wont

How long has he been getting away with this PP? I guess his mum did everything but wipe his bum? If he is not into doing laundry maybe you can figure out a list of chores that he is more inclined toward. We have traditional Pink and Blue jobs in our household, plus DH is good at shopping and the kitchen but absolutely does not do laundry (his mum used to do all elements of the laundry in the cloying privacy of the BASEMENT - so the rest of his family never even had to see it going on - his sister also doesn't do laundry ... Oh the responsibility of being a mum to boys!) May as well wait till things calm down to discuss (and in the meantime I guess his clothes can languish in the bottom of the basket actions=consequences) HTH, Sim

I've already decided that, from now on he can do his own laundry/ironing.

When I try and talk to him, I get 'I do more that some men' grrrrrrrrrr

And yes, you are right, his mother did spoil him rotten, he didn't leave home until he was 35. He really cannot see why I'm annoyed either and that is getting my back up