Me vs neighbour

[coffeewithmilk]

Myself and my neighbour have boundary hedging separating the drive ways from each other. It’s equally on both of our land, half and half. He has paved right up to the hedging and basically pushed all the soil from his side onto my land.
I was out today trying to tidy up and a bit of soil fell back down into his garden and he came out and gave me a dirty look and I felt quite intimidated.

AIBU thinking that what he has done is incredibly rude and should have consulted me before pushing all the soil onto my boundary?

For reference, we have both lived in the houses for the same period of time (new build)
He seems to be completely unaware that he has neighbours and makes noise at all hours, washing his car at 6.30am on a bank holiday, generally shouting and being loud and inconsiderate

What am I meant to do?

You can't feel intimidated just because someone looks at you surely? He didn't shout, swear or even say anything. Why haven't you spoken to him about the soil? Was there a lot of soil? The soil won't do any harm, it'll just wash away with the weather.

How much soil is there, if it's just a little bit then sweep it up, ignore his silly looks. If it's a lot then he should clear it from your land, it's his soil to deal with and dispose of. Do you have someone who can speak to him and tell him to stop being anti social.

Is there a back story? Something you’ve forgotten to write? It’s unusual to feel intimated by someone giving you a dirty look?

It’s not rude no on his patio, maybe a bit inconsiderate.

@Dillydollydingdong sorry intimidated is the wrong word.. I don't know how to describe it, he was just being generally rude.
There's quite a lot of soil, if you can imagine about 4-5 large sized bags of compost.. generally doesn't wash away where we live and it's a new estate and no drain etc nearby

I didn't talk to him about it because it was already done by the time I had come home from work and he was out at the time

@Bluntness100 he seems to be a very unsocial, very rude man. He has a young son and I always hear him shouting at the son and the son crying so I just automatically know he's not a very nice person. Dealings previously with him regarding parking across my driveway etc haven't gone down very well.. so I'm reluctant to bring anything up about the soil

Did he do the paving himself? If not, he might not be aware that some excess soil was pushed onto your side of the border the hedge grows in, as part of the paving process.

I'm not sure there's much you can do tbh, it's all just part of living with neighbours. Talking outside his house too loudly isn't particularly objectionable. I wonder why he was washing his car so early? I don't think of it as a noisy activity, perhaps he didn't realise you could hear it?

if its compost I would bag it & use it elsewhere on my garden -or- -sell- --
-it- -on- -ebay-

DogsSausages Why does OP need someone else to speak to him to say he is being anti-social?

The hostile look is probably the result of previous ruffled feelings when you spoke to him about parking over your drive, mixed with a bit of territorial looking out to make sure you aren't doing anything to his garden.

I can understand your reluctance to speak to him again in view of the above, having had similar experience over drives and getting a rough answer. It's very offputting.

I d just use the soil to fill a nice plant pot by the front door Op

I'd be more concerned about him always shouting at his young son and making him cry than some soil on your drive.

He sounds a bit of a bully.
Either ignore or confront.
Though the son I'd be more worried about poor lamb.